Neighbour gathering noise

[User727117]

Hello

Once a month my neighbour has people stay over (flat above) at the weekend. There is no music but I guess due to alcohol the talking and laughing is incredibly loud (I guess the soundproofing is poor and alcohol is involved which raises the volume). It's so loud that it prevents me sleeping even through wearing ear plugs and playing white noise. It goes on until 4am. I'm then shattered the next day.

I haven't said anything as I guess the flat above may hear my living noise due to the poor soundproofing at times too, though I never have any parties or go to bed past midnight. Do people feel this is just something you have to accept when living in a flat? And it's not like it's music it's just talking and laughing. I don't think he's doing anything wrong it's just unfortunate the soundproofing is poor. So would you just suck it up and try to accept it or would you say something like request they try to keep noise down after midnight?

I think you should say something. People shouldn't be making a noise that keeps people awake til 4am.

You live on top of each other
It's once a month
It's just talking/laughing...I mean how dare they?

Move? Or speak up and risk them retaliating with a long list of how your own noise disturbs them too

We had neighbours like this (adjoining semi). They were noisy even when not having a party but every now and again there would be a gathering and it was just unbelievable.

Once a month and not even with loud music? And from the timing of this, over a bank holiday weekend? That's entirely reasonable and indeed considerate socialising.

You could certainly ask them to keep the volume of music down after certain times but I'm afraid you can't really ask people not to talk or laugh. This is just stuff that's par for the course if you live in flats or adjoining houses. If it really bothers you, you probably need to move.

I would say it doesn't hurt to ask, but it depends on how much of a twat your neighbour is.

I'd try politely asking and see what happens.

Some people are just oblivious.

Oh absolutely I don't think he's doing anything wrong at all. I just didn't know whether the consensus would be to request lower volumes after midnight or even 1am. But I can see the consensus is to accept it.

Make friends with them!

When I bought my flat, it was the first thing I did. The upstairs neighbours are now 2 of my bffs. I even get an apology text when they drop something on the floor and they feed my cat when I'm away.

Oh yes, making friends with them is a good idea. Once you're on friendly terms you can mention how light a sleeper you are (or they might invite you to one of the parties, or at least give you a heads-up).

In the meantime do you have a different room you could sleep in if you're disturbed? If you're hearing noise from directly above your bedroom, moving to the sofa might be far enough away that it bothers you less.

I have this and I don't even know the people or flat number. They're in the next block which is adjoined but our windows are perpendicular and my bedroom window is about 18inchrs from their lounge windows. My lounge wall is on the other side of theirs so there is no reprieve if I try to sleep in there either. Hope that makes sense.

I've had drum and bass music (is it music?) until 5am, shouting and shrieking with friends until 5am. Arguing at all times. It was peaceful until they moved in a few months ago.
I never heard anything from previous residents. They hang out the windows to smoke and it sounds like they're in my bedroom, it's awful.
I can't complain as I don't know who they are.
I'm selling and moving. Some people are so inconsiderate

Last weekend I did shout out of my bedroom window at 5am (with curtains closed as I didn't want them to identify me) 'please close the window and turn the music down a bit' They did thankfully.

This is a weekly occurrence