My partner and I are expecting a boy in August. Partner's sister is expecting a boy in September and his cousin is expecting a boy in October.
You can probably guess where this is going! We were told today by my partner's mum that a certain name is 'off the table' because his cousin has decided on it. This is the name we'd pretty much decided on too. Partner's sister has it as her second choice apparently.
Are we being unreasonable to think that as we probably get to go first then we can go for whatever we like? Or is that a bit selfish? They'd all have different surnames and we barely see the cousin anyway.
AIBU?
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Cakecakecheese · 02/05/2022 18:44
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLSquiff70 · 02/05/2022 19:03
Ouch! Whichever baby is born first gets named first. Nobody has the right to dictate to you what you can and cannot call your child. Your baby, your choice. I'm also expecting a little boy in August! We're quite sure we've decided on a name for him but we're not telling a soul until baby arrives - mainly the 'surprise' element but also because I seriously CANNOT BE ARSED with people saying "oh, I wouldn't call him X! I knew an X and he was a little shit!".
Good luck!
Kindofcrunchy · 02/05/2022 19:11
Tbh I'd be even more inclined to use the name if I was told it was "off the table" 😂
Botoxbotox · 02/05/2022 19:14
Use what you want, but if they specified it first they'll think you "stole" it.
It's not like they've bagged it for an abstract concept baby that's yet to be conceived, their baby is due in a few months.
If I was them I'd be a bit 🤔
Botoxbotox · 02/05/2022 19:14
Use what you want, but if they specified it first they'll think you "stole" it.
It's not like they've bagged it for an abstract concept baby that's yet to be conceived, their baby is due in a few months.
If I was them I'd be a bit 🤔
Cakecakecheese · 02/05/2022 19:21
It's their grandfather's name so that's why they all want it.
Botoxbotox · 02/05/2022 19:14
Use what you want, but if they specified it first they'll think you "stole" it.
It's not like they've bagged it for an abstract concept baby that's yet to be conceived, their baby is due in a few months.
If I was them I'd be a bit 🤔
CharlotteUnaNatalieThompson · 02/05/2022 19:22
If you were a bit 🤔 in this situation you'd need to give your head a wobble.
While they can announce the name they've chosen wherever and however they like, they can't then dictate that no one else can use the name (in fairness they might not have done this might just be OP mum...)
I suspect though that the name is pretty common and they've done this because they know 2 relatives are expecting boys before them and are hoping they won't choose it themselves now!
Botoxbotox · 02/05/2022 19:14
Use what you want, but if they specified it first they'll think you "stole" it.
It's not like they've bagged it for an abstract concept baby that's yet to be conceived, their baby is due in a few months.
If I was them I'd be a bit 🤔
Cakecakecheese · 02/05/2022 18:44
My partner and I are expecting a boy in August. Partner's sister is expecting a boy in September and his cousin is expecting a boy in October.
You can probably guess where this is going! We were told today by my partner's mum that a certain name is 'off the table' because his cousin has decided on it. This is the name we'd pretty much decided on too. Partner's sister has it as her second choice apparently.
Are we being unreasonable to think that as we probably get to go first then we can go for whatever we like? Or is that a bit selfish? They'd all have different surnames and we barely see the cousin anyway.
CharlotteUnaNatalieThompson · 02/05/2022 19:24
Cross posted... Then they've DEFINITELY done this in the hope the 2 of you expecting boys before them won't choose it yourselves now!
Cakecakecheese · 02/05/2022 19:21
It's their grandfather's name so that's why they all want it.
Botoxbotox · 02/05/2022 19:14
Use what you want, but if they specified it first they'll think you "stole" it.
It's not like they've bagged it for an abstract concept baby that's yet to be conceived, their baby is due in a few months.
If I was them I'd be a bit 🤔
Springdaisy · 02/05/2022 19:27
Well of course you can use it. It just makes you look like a bit of a d*ck. Someone from the family announces their chosen name and you go and pick that name first? I wouldnt be impressed if i was your cousin and i would think youre ridiculous if i was another family member tbh.
Springdaisy · 02/05/2022 19:27
Well of course you can use it. It just makes you look like a bit of a d*ck. Someone from the family announces their chosen name and you go and pick that name first? I wouldnt be impressed if i was your cousin and i would think youre ridiculous if i was another family member tbh.
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Whatsmyname100 · 02/05/2022 19:52
Given that all 3 of you chose the name, do you really want a name so common? If 3 of you chose it you can imagine that many others did too. I would personally have changed it if I heard everyone else was planning on the same name.
RowanAlong · 02/05/2022 19:52
Is there a different shortening/version if the name that you like as much? Could he be Will or Billy rather than William, for example? I can see why you are annoyed, but I’d think about how you’ll feel if the cousin then names her baby the same. What about finding another fantastic name, and using grandfather’s name for the middle name, for the sake of family harmony, taking moral high-ground, etc? There are loads of other brilliant names out there. What about your own grandfathers’ names?
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