I used to be best friends with this person however since covid she has changed (selfish, awkward, sulks when doesn't get own way, makes plans and doesn't turn up and a bit bizarre in her behaviour). She has always been these things apart from the not turning up but before it was just the odd time but I've distanced myself over recent months as it's become all the time and the lovely part of her has disappeared. She is not anxious about covid I must add - she's the opposite, doesn't believe in restrictions, masks, jabs and didn't follow any rules as she didn't want to but that's her choice she's an adult.
She asked me to do something today however I am still annoyed at the last time we met in the Easter hols (she was a nightmare and spoke to one of my DDs like crap). Me and DH taking kids to a festival and I said she could join us to which she said yes. Anyway last night was horrendous - baby has a cold and barely slept, DH snoring was incessant and I've had a couple of hours Kip at most.
Previously I would never dream of cancelling on her because she would sulk and be difficult but I really want to just send my DH off with the kids and try and catch up on sleep and it's something she could still go and do with her kids. Just to add the only reason I've tried to remain civil with this friend is because I work with her and know how difficult she's made it for others she doesn't get on with.
AIBU to cancel and expect her to not kick off? I feel ridiculous for asking as someone cancelled on me yesterday (bbq because weather was a bit dull) and I am fine with it but I know some would be annoyed.