New to Mumsnet. Bit of a backstory.
Recently I had a fall out with a best friend of mine. This girl went all out, and accused me of some pretty horrific things. One of those was neglect of my DS. Social services investigated and have absolutely no concerns and have filed the complaint as malicious. We have no social services involvement.
During this process, said ex bestie also contacted my DS's biological father, who has had nothing to do with him since he was around 3 years old.(this was due to him pretending to be sick and being completely inconsistant) 6 years on and after a message from this girl, he also contacted SS and said he wanted to go for custody. SS quickly gave me legal advice line details.
When he realised the outcome wasn't that my DS was being removed, I then got a message from his partner. They said they had cut contact with said girl, didn't want to go through court if possible as my ex is actually unwell now but wanted to restart a relationship. I spoke to my son, who was open to it and wanted to look into it. So I agreed, on the basis it was honest, with good communication and most importantly, consistent.
We get to the second time he is supposed to have DS. I message to ask about drop off times and I'm told that my ex is too sick to have my son. No problem, things happen when you're ill. I get that. DS and I had a lovely day out visiting the zoo instead. On the drive there, DS disclosed to me that my ex had asked him to keep a secret from me, and that he wasn't to tell me because I'd have a go at my ex. That they were infact still in contact with said girl and she was sending messages to my DS via them. The same girl that did her upmost to destroy my life, and put both my DS and I in harms way. She disclosed my location online after accusing me of some quite horrific things to quite a wide audience. One nutjob and we could have both been hurt.
Would I be wrong in now saying he now needs to go to court? That actually I'm no longer comfortable with this arrangement as she has previously put us in harms way and that's not safeguarding my child? Or am I being too sensitive about the situation?