To think sleeping with one or two men a week is too much?

[Lilybow]

Bit concerned about my friend, she goes on lots of dates, and when she does she sleeps with them the first date which is fine. But if she's not dating she's sleeping with a guy she's met at a bar instead. She had a break up last year, and since then she's been sleeping with at least one new man a week, sometimes two.
She gets really drunk and I'm worried she's putting herself in a vulnerable position at times...because she gets black out drunk. I don't go out with her much as I have a family and can't but she tells me me

Let her live her life, it’s her business.

She's a grown woman. Leave her to it. Not your business.

Posted before i finished sorry.
She tells me everything I mean. She says she feels shit but then does it again. I'm more worried about the drinking as she has put herself in some dodgy situations with some men but feel quite helpless as she says she doesn't want to do it then does it again. She's in her late twenties. What can I do?

You can be concerned, but ultimately it's her choice.

Theres nothing you can do. It's her life. You nod along if you're happy to listen.

What can you do? Keep out of it. Her problems are her problems.

She can sleep with whoever she wants, whenever she wants.
The drinking until she blacks out really isn’t good though.

I know it's not my business, but she calls me when she's too drunk and stranded after these men occasionally, comes to mine as of course I'd rather she's safe, but it's starting to affect me emotionally as I worry.

Then set boundaries. Either dont answer her calls at night or tell her its affecting you and youd rather she didn't worry you. There is nothing else you can do.

You are enabling her. It's her drinking that is the problem here, not the men.

YANBU - understandably you want your friend to be OK.
Next time she talks about it maybe ask her if there's anything you can do to help her to keep safer or to break the dependencies on alcohol and sex.

If you keep trying to look after her and help her break habits you will become over invested in it and be annoyed and frustrated every time she does what she wants, as shes an adult and you cant make her do or not do anything.

I think you need to suggest to her that she find some counselling or similar to help her as she’s clearly not over the relationship. Going out every week and sleeping with new people is FINE if she’s enjoying herself. It doesn’t sound like she is. This sounds like a form of self harming behaviour esp if the men are often not v nice/she’s not being at all fussy.

I agree with this. She's putting herself in vulnerable positions by drinking so heavily that she may not be able to make safe decisions. However she's choosing to drink heavily and by now understands what her behaviour tends to be. Do you think she's got a bigger problem with alcohol and low self esteem? Potentially as far as addiction or reliance?

She really can sleep with whoever she wants but if this behaviour is out of the norm for her (which it probably is for most single women) then if I felt able I'd be asking more probing questions.

I do think some people have a habit of doing what they want in the moment but regret it later because it didn't make them feel the way they want but they repeat it chasing that feeling. I'd consider pulling back from being as available to talk about this part of her life if you're finding it difficult. Get her set up with Uber or a local taxi firm app so she can get home even if she doesn't know where she is (her phone will) and turn your phone on silent or off overnight, she's an adult capable of getting herself safely home.

Hmmm. I think your post should be "My friend gets blackout drunk every week" because that's the problem. The drinking, not the sleeping with (up to) 2 men a week. You've focused on the wrong part 🤷‍♀️