Maybe I am

[Mckmck]

I'll keep it short (honestly!)
10 years ago my child's dad told me "I hope you end up like X"
My disabled aunt. I still can't get over such a horrible comment.
I'm not a man hater, I want my child to spend time with him. Any time in May is what i said this evening.He said "will let you know"
Just feel like stopping to try.
AIBU?

Stopping putting the effort in, you mean? I think that you have to be the better person here, for your child’s sake, even if his or her father is an arse.

not unreasonable to be annoyed, though.

Is it a private agreement or court ordered? Does your child want to see their dad? How old are they?

He sounds like a dick but your child has a right to a relationship with both parents unless the parent is abusive to them.

I wouldn’t chase him for contact but facilitate it if it’s in the interest of your shared child.

13. And no. Doesn't want to. Sincerely not from anything I have said. I don't ever say anything bad about him. When he doesn't come to pick up I always say "he is busy with work". But at 13, child knows he just wasn't arsed

No court order, just an agreement we had. Never really worked properly

It's harder when they're getting older. Wants to hang out with mates and football trials etc
So I don't know whether to force either way

About the nasty comment: it’s just a nasty comment, made because he knew it would upset you. It’s like when a child says “you’re poo”. An intellectually unsophisticated individual saying the worst thing they could think of. It shows what a nasty prat he is, or was being at the time, but it’s not worthy of lasting attention.

The contact is a completely separate issue.

I wouldn’t ‘force’ anything. Do neither of them actually want to see each other?