To Ask My Neighbours To Turn The Music Down

[Rhodora]

I live with my DH in a cottage flat. A cottage flat is a block of four with each flat having its own front door and garden. We have no shared entry.

My downstairs neighbour let’s call her Jane has three children a son and twin daughters. Jane’s three children were all born a year apart in the late 80s. One of Jane’s daughters is expecting and today they started the baby shower at 1pm in Jane’s garden. At 9pm they finally moved the baby shower inside but we can still not only hear the music through the floor (Jane’s ceiling) but our sofas are vibrating. We have our tv at a volume of 84 and can still hear the music perfectly. Am I being unreasonable if it goes on after 10pm to ask them to turn it down. I don’t want to spoil the party but that will be 9 hours it has gone on for.

I'm impressed with Jane's stamina!

Tbh I wouldn't. I would just get on with my night and ignore it especially if it's an isolated thing.

Put the tele on and ignore it is what I would do.

If its a once off I would say nothing

Hilarious response.

I wouldn't. Seems like a once off and a bit mean to spoil that.

Who the hell invented the name "cottage flat"?
Is this in London or something?

It's a one off, leave it be.

Wtf is a cottage flat, do you mean a maisonette?

A cottage flat is well known in Scotland

If it's a one-off and they are fine neighbours usually I would just deal with it for one night.

If it's a one-off thing, let them enjoy themselves. It wasn't that long ago that we were in full scale lockdown and people couldn't socialise at all. Personally, I love to hearing my neighbours out in their gardens on a sunny weekend, chatting with friends and having BBQs often until the wee hours. Let them have so fun.

It's a one-off op (as far as I'm aware, happy to be corrected) and it's not even that late really. My neighbours had loud music blaring into the early hours of the morning back in 2020, every week for 4 months. Now that nearly killed me!

And this is precisely why so called baby showers can go right back to the USA! I would go and tell them to turn the music down.

A cottage flat is better known as “four in a block” in Scotland.
one building, 2 flats on ground floor, 2 flats on upper floor. Each with own front door entering from street, unlike a tenement, which has a shared stair.

hope the music has been turned off, OP.

Strange response. Why is that hilarious?

I wouldn't say anything. No point causing a fuss with neighbours if it's a one off.

ask them to turn it down.

Your asking people to time music doen at 10pm on a Saturday??? Wow

It's a one off. Don't be that neighbour

I feel your pain. I love peace and quiet and don’t do well with no sleep. If it’s that loud that it’s vibrating your furniture, I’m not sure how you can be expected to just ignore it and get in with your night. Your night is being dictated by the party goers.

I would head down and ask them to turn it down soon please as you’re heading to bed.

It's shit and inconsiderate but if it's a one off, I would try my best to let it go.

I feel your pain OP. My neighbours in the next street have been hosting a garden party since 3. Special guest appear by Foghorn Leghorn who thinks he is totes hillaire. He wasn't at 3, he's not now,

I have never, ever heard of a baby shower with loud music that goes on into late in the night. I don't think that's typical.

I hope you didn't have to suffer too much longer with the loud music, OP. If the pregnant daughter still lives with her mother, I'd be more worried about the soon-to-arrive baby crying at all hours of the day and night. That definitely won't be a one-off...

Totally disagree with this. Loud neighbours are a pita.

If it's a one off, I'd ignore it. Hopefully it stops soon.

I'd ignore it.

DH and I went to bed at 11.30pm and it was still going on. Lots of sore heads this morning I think.