Is anybody really happy with how they look?

[Andyouwithyourautumnsweater]

I am. I am really happy and find myself very attractive. I would never admit that to anyone though as it's hugely taboo in our society it seems. I'm proud of how I look and I like taking care of myself. It's not everything though, I know.
I'm not saying I'll be attractive to everyone, or everyone's type.
It's just sad to see so many people in the world insecure about their looks. I haven't always felt like this, just curious to know if anyone else does.

I am. Perfectly happy - don’t buy into this self criticism nonsense.

I can see from pictures that I'm objectively a very ordinary 53 year old carrying far too much weight. I don't often wear makeup and don't do much about my looks. But yes, I do in fact like the way I look, or most of it. I don't think I'm fantastic looking or stylish but I do have sexual confidence.

I have days where I'll sit and feel quite sad about my "flaws" and other days where I catch my reflection and think "damn girl you're looking fucking hot today" so eh goes up and down

Yes broadly very happy. I mean I'm a bit fat like but it doesn't bother me sufficiently to do much about it. I think I look good, even with no make up on.

Yes. Based purely on the fact whenever I’ve tried a change - haircut/makeup/clothes style, I’ve always gradually reverted back to the style/lack off, I’ve been happier and more comfortable and confident with.

I don't think I'm perfect but I'm not too bothered about the imperfections. Not bothered enough to eat less chocolate and implement a strict skincare routine anyway 😊I don't recoil from mirrors. Content rather than happy maybe!

Yes, l am happy with way l look, 53, fit and healthy.
Maybe as you mature you just feel more comfortable generally, l also think feeling good inside is a major contributor, l work on my mental and emotional health, as well as physical health, so have a good balance.

No. I hate how I look. Old and haggard.

Wish I could disappear for a few weeks and have a facelift.

I am. I don’t think I’m beautiful or put myself above others but I’m a nice looking person. I keep myself clean and wear nice clothes that I like. One of the things that made me feel more like this was that my youngest daughter is me. My childhood photos are only distinguishable from her by the dated clothing and poorer photo quality. And she’s gorgeous. So obviously I’m not bad looking either.

I think though (I know some disagree) most people are nice looking. I’ve rarely met a really ugly person. I’m a mature student at the moment and hear a lot of the students talking about how they need xyz or they’re so ugly and I feel like saying don’t be daft look at yourself! You’re perfectly fine.

I do have elements I’m not as happy with obviously, I don’t think I’m perfect. Like I’m trying to grow out my hair right now so it’s patchy coloured etc. But it doesn’t make me feel that I’m not happy with myself or that I’m not good looking if that makes sense!

Not at the moment, no. But I'm doing something about it! I remember how I felt when I was thinner and that's what I want back. That confidence and happiness

I’m a tubby menopause. Plain. I’m perfectly happy with what I look like. I‘d like to be thinner for health purposes but I have no insecurity looks wise. I am happy to look like an ordinary person.

I’m happy with my skin, face and hair, but not particularly with my body. I could do with losing a stone or two.

Yes.

haven't always felt like this

what prompted the change?

I am. I'm pretty average looking, been told I look young for my age, but am not really anything special to look at. But I'm pretty fit, and my body is healthy and strong. That's worth a hell of a lot, and I appreciate my body for what it can do.

I wouldn’t say happy, I’m just kinder to myself nowadays. It would take serious levels of self delusion to call myself beautiful but I try not to beat myself up about it. It doesn’t matter if I’m not turning heads or running marathons, it’s fine to just be getting by in life, you don’t have to be gorgeous to have fun or make a difference in the world. I’m in my forties now and it feels like wasted energy trying to be something I’m
not and life is so much easier when you let go of all the self criticism.

I think though (I know some disagree) most people are nice looking. I’ve rarely met a really ugly person.

I agree with this. Most women are far too critical of themselves and see only the 'flaws' that those around them don't even notice.

I'm happy with how I look too. Don't get me wrong, there's many better looking women in the world than me, but I think I look nice. I tend to focus on the postives when it comes to looks. I know my ears stick out, but I just don't wear my hair up. I know my stomach isn't as flat as it was, but it's not awful and I have had children. My bums a bit flat, but I've got good boobs. I try to remember compliments too - in recent weeks I've been told that I have beautiful colour eyes and lovely smile/great teeth, so I try to focus on those compliments if I'm having a day where I feel a bit meh.

I like my body but not my face! It’s my skin really, it’s very patchy in terms of natural pigmentation with a bit of melasma on top and now quite a few fine lines thrown in! I am trying to both improve the appearance of my skin whilst also accepting it for how it is, eg wearing no make up some days.

I've always been happy. I gained a facial scar in my teens which looked angry for a couple of years. I know its there, but it faded and became a part of my story. No one else really registers it.

The thing I didn't like for several years was the saggy post-CS overhang. It was a rapid, unexpeted change and an unpleasant reminder of a distressing moment, plus it's actually annoying. There was no point rushing to do anything about it until I was certain that my pregnancy days were complete, so I decided that if I still wanted a tummy tuck, I could have one at 40. I got used to it, the associations faded, CBA to go through the risks and inconvenience. But just giving myself that permission was actually a big step towards acceptance because it then made it a choice, and I now choose to keep it as it is, rather than something inflicted on me.

Haven't voted as I'm not sure what you are asking if YABU or not about.

I'm comfortable in my skin.
I'm certainly not beautiful.
Add together middle age, hormone treatment after cancer, menopause, a love of chocolate, and covid, and I'm a LOT fatter / heavier than I used to be. If I wanted to analyse each bit of me, I'm sure I could find lots of faults, BUT I genuinely don't put a lot of store by what other people look like, so I work on the principle that nobody is too bothered about what I look like either.
I am very comfortable to accept that this is what nature gave me. Every wrinkle shows I've lived life - I think people without wrinkles at my age look quite strange. I've no desire for people to think I am younger than I am.

Nope! Absolutely f'ing hate everything about myself. I'm ugly. I have acne scars, flat tits, I have more wrinkles than I should have/grey hair. I am just disgusting. I'm 46. I've hated myself since I was 12... nothing will change now.

I can barely stand to look in the mirror. The sad thing is I can look at pictures and think “wow! I look pretty amazing “
At uni 20 years ago I would have to force myself to go out as I felt too conscious. Petite, skinny attractive girl.
Im currently 6 months post partum and carrying an extra 15kgs. Whilst I can put on make up and think….ok…I take a step back and almost cry at the lumps and bumps. It’s an odd feeling.