No recognition

[Anonymous231]

I left my role of 3 years and apart from a goodluck from a few people there was no effort made. AIBU to feel a little upset? In past when people have left there has been a collection of some sort. In a way it’s a blessing as it’s awkward being made a fuss of, but on other hand I worked so hard and feel a bit miffed that they went to no effort.

Yeah, that’s a bit shit.

Were you working remotely for a lot of that time and people didn't think they really knew you?

3 years isn't long and during a pandemic when we we've all worked separately during that time.....YABU

Didn’t work remotely. Key worker so worked closely for all this time. Had lunch everyday with them.

LM is the one that usually sends out emails and does the effort for collection etc. it’s obvious I had a line manager who was very lazy. He praised me a lot but went to no effort to arrange a collection. People that have worked for less than a year got flowers, chocolates n a card from a more well organised LM

Wow. That's cold, I think what this says a lot about the people they are.
Unless you're an amazingly difficult character with no likeable qualities, this just tells you everything about them as people. We're currently saying goodbye to a colleague who has been with us 6 months and we're giving her a nice little departing gift and warm and fuzzy feelings.
Glad you're leaving and hope your next place is a place where people feel a bit more of a human connection.

YANBU. Ive worked in offices all my life and I think I have least been given something. Given the cost of living and the pandemic I can see why there isnt a whip round or an afternoon / morning tea but a bottle of wine / flowers and a card by the company isnt that unreasonable. Just some appreciation of what you have given the company.

There are regular threads about people not being able to afford to contribute to collections. Maybe they're just being a bit more conscientious towards the remaining staff?

I don't understand why people need recognition when they leave. It's not like you've done your colleagues a favour.

Yes, that is rubbish. Sounds like your LM was at fault. Shake it off and move on.

LM did say amazing things about me in a meeting and I know senior management is very happy with me. I’m a quiet person and not difficult character. Staff often came to me with personal problems and I am in lots of WhatsApp groups outside of work with them. I think a few did feel guilty that I got nothing, it was just a case of no one stepped in.

Yes I agree

That has become the norm in our company, even before COVID.

In the past there was a collection, cards, buffet etc but for a few years now it has been normal for people to almost just walk out the door, they may arrange a drink with close friends/colleagues but there is rarely any sort of ceremony beyond recieving an official certificate etc.
We are not talking short service either, many of them have worked for the company 30-40+ years.

Don't think it is a bad thing though, when I chat to these people they almost always say they don't want any fuss and are pleased it was so low key (or non-existent). Personally I am the same, I will be leaving in a couple of years with 40-years service and would cringe at a happy clappy leaving affair!