Names

[Serenalanymor]

Gave daughter the moniker Nell, mil hates this and so calls her Eleanor at any given opportunity started off with Ellie until i asked her to stop. Basically i always liked Nell as a name and the only reason Eleanor is on thr BC is because ive got an unusual name and i hate it i want to give her options one day should SHE want them, but her name is Nell Mil is only person that calls hee something different and it worries me that she will corner her one day and try and change her name.....it really grates me badly. Ive already Heard her being disparaging about the name to my toddler and i just want to stop it tbh. SO thinks im being OTT

I can see why this annoys you but I don’t think you can stop people from giving your child their own nickname

But her name is Eleanor, so of course she'll be known as this by some people. I think you're being a bit precious.

I agree.

Mil is only person that calls hee something different and it worries me that she will corner her one day and try and change her name.....

How would MIL change her name? She's already called Eleanor.

I understand you prefer Nell, but your MIL is doing nothing wrong by calling your DD by her actual name.

You should have put Nell on the birth certificate. But still you don't know when she's older she might surprise you and prefer Eleanor. Kids can be cruel and pick on anything.

her name is Nell it's not though?

Her name isn't Nell. Nell isn't short for Eleanor. It's like calling a child Sarah and insisting people call her Jane.

Eleanor is way nicer than Nell. I'm with DMIL.

She stopped with ellie when you asked. But her name is Eleanor and your mil is using her name. I think you're being unreasonable and precious

All right should of just given the shorter name on bc just didn't want her to go through life with only a moniker for a name. Unfortunately not allowed to change things now will just hope that the woman hating on the name i picked stops thanks

Being disparaging about the name to your toddler is the bit I would come down on - that's not OK. Nell and Eleanor are both nice names

just hope that the woman hating on the name i picked stops thanks

What woman hating?

I know a Nell. She’s brilliant. And yes, she’s an Eleanor officially too. Names are a big part of who we are. If your daughter is very much a Nell, it won’t be long before she starts correcting people for calling her the “wrong” name.

Don't call your child something and then insist they be called something else.

Yes Nell is short for Eleanor but YABU to expect everyone to call her by the shortened name. Some prefer Eleanor. As pp said eventually your child will be old enough to tell people what she likes being called.

What do you mean by Monkier though? Nell is the pet name? Nickname?

Yes I agree with this. She doesn't have to be rude about Nell even if she thinks it's awful.

Just start calling MIL by a different name and see how she likes it

I am also a Nell. Not officially, but that's how I've always been known - apart from by my paternal grandmother, who called me by my full name.

Nobody batted an eyelid (thought she was a bit of a bat). Life is too short for this kind of stuff. Let it go. If she makes disparaging comments, that just means she's a bit of a dick. But family members who are dicks is all part of the fun.