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Weird neighbour behaviour?

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Powerofthedog · 29/04/2022 17:30

When I first bought my house I completely renovated it. I didn’t live there whilst the work was being done but I was told one of my neighbours came over and asked to look around my house - which she then did. Not long after she was also caught trying to enter my garden through the back gate.

Anyway, I’ve been living in the house 7 months now and one of the builders came over today to do a small job and she approached him and asked to for another tour of my house. He said that she would need to ask me.

I don’t know what this woman looks like, she’s never introduced herself to me. I find this behaviour extremely bizarre - or is it normal to ask to view a strangers house multiple times?

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Antarcticant · 29/04/2022 17:32

It isn't normal to ask to view a stranger's house once unless it's for sale!

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Powerofthedog · 29/04/2022 17:33

Just to say I didn’t particularly care the first time as it was an empty house - apart from the new walls, flooring, kitchen units etc - but now it had all my possessions in it. And it’s also the fact she’s never introduced herself (which she doesn’t have to) but has the expectations that she can have a wonder around my house.

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BlanketsBanned · 29/04/2022 17:35

No its weird, she is a nosy mare. Make sure the gate is locked, if you see her then ask her why she keeps asking to have a look inside, she will probably say she wants some ideas to do at her house.

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 29/04/2022 17:36

What was the outcome of her trying to get in through the back gate?

If you know her address write her a letter asking her to back the fuck off. She’s an oddball.

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Powerofthedog · 29/04/2022 17:44

Well the dinning room and kitchen were already kind of one room but I opened it up by removing more of the wall and switched the two rooms around. Which she’s apparently really interested in seeing … except she already saw it?

With the back gate, the builder saw her walk there, try the gate and it’s locked so she left. He banged on the window at her and she just waved. The kitchen is at the back of the house so she probably assumed it was ok to let herself into the garden to look through my windows.

But I’ve never met this woman, couldn’t even say what colour hair she has.

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Brighteyedtriangle · 29/04/2022 17:47

Is she definitely a neighbour and not the ex owner?

I had a little noisy in my buyers house when i dropped some post off that was delivered to me by mistake. Obviously invited in but its always interesting to see what someones done to your old home

Swingsandroundabouts123 · 29/04/2022 17:47

Only excuse is if she’s interested in hiring the builder and wants to view his work?

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 29/04/2022 17:49

Maybe she just really fancies the builder. Might be nothing to do with your house.

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Powerofthedog · 29/04/2022 17:51

I highly doubt she’s the ex owner and my builder hasn’t been here for 7 months so the chances of her being on the street at the same time as him when she moved 4 hours away seems unlikely.

She couldn’t hire the builder either, he only works part time now and only does work for people he knows.

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Aquamarine1029 · 29/04/2022 17:51

Of course this isn't normal. What a fucking nutter. I would install a security system and would give her a very wide berth. I have a huge, huge problem with people who don't respect people's property and privacy.

Spectre8 · 29/04/2022 17:53

Quite nosy unless she is planning some changes and wants to see what you've done. A neighbour a few doors down gutted their house and also redid their garden. However they know me and I asked if I could see what they've done to get an idea of space etc. Suffice to say I wouldn't actually do any of the changes they did but it was interesting to see.

DashboardConfessional · 29/04/2022 18:09

Really weird. Perhaps less so if it was a BTL reno or something and she was asking the builder in your absence, but it's your home now!

ilovemyboys3 · 29/04/2022 18:14

I'd knock her door and ask why she's trying access your property. Put her on the spot and hopefully she'll stop! I wouldn't let nosy neighbours view my house.

Aquamarine1029 · 29/04/2022 18:17

ilovemyboys3 · 29/04/2022 18:14

I'd knock her door and ask why she's trying access your property. Put her on the spot and hopefully she'll stop! I wouldn't let nosy neighbours view my house.

I would do exactly this. I would want her to know that I know she's been nosying about and it's not going to be tolerated.

StoneofDestiny · 29/04/2022 18:18

Not normal, she is a nut job. Get cameras installed.

ProfYaffle · 29/04/2022 18:21

I think I'd invest in a Ring doorbell and go round with faux concern saying you understand she was asking for access to your house, is there anything in particular she needs? Just to let her know that you know.

Whenthegoatcomesin · 29/04/2022 18:38

You posted this a a while ago too.

BatshitBanshee · 29/04/2022 18:56

I had an old neighbour do this - I was having work done in my old house and she approached the builder to have a gawp around to see his work. He said he'd have to ask me. I said no - I didn't know her from Adam and it involved traipsing through three floors of my house, our bedroom, en suite, another bedroom, kitchen and outhouse conversion. People are fucking weird and entitled.

BrightYellowDaffodil · 29/04/2022 20:22

YANBU and I’d be getting a Ring doorbell/other camera system to check she’s not coming round at other times.

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