Are there any police experts here?

[damnthisvirusandmarriage]

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I separated from ex H almost two years ago. Reported a lot of abuse to police. But all NFA’d.

I’ve had to make yet another report about his behaviour to them more recently. They’re interviewing him this week.

They have already said that all the historical things won’t be taken into consideration as NFA’d.

He abused his ex wife, me and a few other violent related incidents over the years. He’s got away with it all.

What will it take for this man to stop abusing people. When will be feel there full force of the law? Does he have to kill somebody for the police to take action?

Any advice?

i could also do with advice on co parenting with this type of person. He’s jealous, and just makes things awkward when trying to discuss things related to our children.

Please somebody ho me.

I’m not any sort of expert, but perhaps Womens Aid might be able to advise you?

Look up the complaints process and follow it would be my advice.

What does NFA’d mean?

Womens Aid have done all they can in terms of support.

And I’ve complained every step of the way with the NFA.

No further action

I’m afraid there’s not enough information in your post to advise. There are so many variables. It depends what offences have been committed, what evidence there was, what he said on interview, what evidence there was to back up his claims, whether the NFA decisions were police or CPS.

If you believe NFA is the wrong decision you have the right to ask for the decision to be reviewed, and details of how to do this should be given to you when you are told of the NFA decision.

Previous incidents of DV should be considered when making a charging decision, but they can’t be used in court so don’t hold evidential weight.

I would ask the police to refer you to an IDVA, or go to Women’s Aid, and they can support you through the process and ask any questions of the police you want answering.

i hope you get the help you need x

Ahh I see. Were there no witnesses to his behaviour?

I may have access to IDVA though Childrens services. I’ve asked to start mediation with them over our children.

no witnesses no. He’s very clever. But I do have screen shots of the death threats and other behaviour from his latest incident.

but even with video evidence last time, it wasn’t enough.

Were you willing to attend court and give evidence against him?

Yes. Every single time. And still am….

Definitely seek referral to an IDVA if the option is available. You could consider applying to the Family Court for a non-molestation order (easier to obtain than a criminal conviction because the standard of proof is lower); the court could order, for example, that he cannot go to your home or workplace or contact you, except through a third party to make child contact arrangements. If he is bothering you at home, can you get a security camera?

Have a look at this website. Not sure if it will help in your circumstances but they can give advice and assist with obtaining injunctions:

www.ncdv.org.uk/

@Coldilox
Previous incidents of DV should be considered when making a charging decision, but they can’t be used in court so don’t hold evidential weight.

I'm a bit baffled by this. Why can't he be charged with, and have to defend himself against evidence of, previous violence? I thought evidence of earlier incidents would only be inadmissible if he'd already been tried for them and acquitted.

Were the crimes investigated by someone in a specialist domestic abuse department or a uniform officer / other non specialist?

They were investigated by regular officers.

i called the 999 operator once. In emergency. I was crying as afraid and traumatised. They noted I had mental health problems. So I complained about that. J said the call operators are not mental health professionals how can they make a judgment on my MH in the back of a 999 call. Should be ashamed of themselves.