I like him but his house stinks!!

[BonBailey88]

I've been seeing someone for about 4 months now after knowing him a couple of years. I also know hun mum and brother and like them both a lot. He is back living with his parents at the moment (as am I, so that's not the issue) but I went round today for the first time and was a bit shocked. They have 3 dogs and 4 cats which is fine, but it's stinks, quite overpowering, of urine. It's not like a hoarders house or anything by any means but it's quite untidy.
I don't want to sound like I'm judging or being shallow as I'm really not... but would this be a deal breaker? It sounds awful but I'd be nervous to have a drink or eat there!
I know it's not his house per se but it's where he lives currently and I just can't imagine hanging out there, im not sure I could get used to the smell.
He's kind, caring, I quite fancy him, we have a good laugh.. but I don't know it's given me the ick a bit! What would you do? Xx

I have a lovely clean home but I have a dog with dental problems.
I personally cannot smell anything untoward but my sister says our house smell of the dog…she is the only person who has said this!
I genuinely think that it is a personal problem..really don’t worry 😉

I would struggle with that. Are any of the animals his? Will the problem be resolved when he moves out?

Doggiescats- yuk! Do you mean your house smells of dog breath?

I can’t talk. My son’s room stinks to high heaven.

Total dealbreaker.

I'd be worried about what his personal hygiene is like to be honest. 😱

Dealbreaker for me too. I couldn't even remotely fancy him!

How old is he? Why did he have to move back in with his mum?

He obviously thinks it is acceptable or would have apologised for the stink so this would be the end for me.

Sorry, but no!

Could you have a discussion about whether he finds it acceptable? In the most polite, discreet way you can manage, of course. If he plans to live the same way then that would be a dealbreaker for me, BUT some of my childhood friends had disgusting homes and went on to be really clean and house proud so it’s hard to judge 🤷‍♂️

It's a no from me!

I’d think about binning him off because there’s a reasonable probability if the relationship has a future and you move in together later that his housekeeping standards will be what he’s grown up in. So that would potentially cause conflict between you or you’ll just end up being the housekeeper, or his mummy doing all the work, because he’s not bothered.

He's 30. He moved back in with his mum after he split up with his ex and she stayed in the house. He's getting a tied house soon with his job. It's such a shame as they are a lovely family and I really like his mum.. but my god the smell of cat (or whatever it is) piss is just overwhelming all over the house!
His room was quite untidy and had mould in the corner, it's not their house it comes with his dads job (vicarage) but I don't know.. I just can't help but feel the ick a bit!