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Colleagues moaning to new manager about me

48 replies

user53234455 · 26/04/2022 22:13

New manager started last week and has been having one to ones will all staff. I was the last one in my department to have mine. My new manager told me that all staff had commented on the hours that I work because I only do half days, moaned that I don’t work any weekend shifts and moaned because I don’t work any extra hours and they all do.
Feel upset that they all did that, I didn’t realise one to ones was a chance to moan about colleagues I thought it was a chance to discuss career progression.

OP posts:
chynapearl · 26/04/2022 22:14

Did they moan or did your manager use this as an excuse to get you to do more work

carefullycourageous · 26/04/2022 22:15

Your new manager sounds shit Brew

Your colleagues can moan all they like - you are not breaking any rules presumably - you are paid part time wages to work part time hours.

If this was me, I would start job hunting. Sorry. If you know and trust your manager's manager you could have a quiet word, but only if you trust them.

LoudingVoice · 26/04/2022 22:16

Are you contracted to work part time hours? If so that’s just literally doing what you’re paid for.

HollowTalk · 26/04/2022 22:17

They're not moaning on payday, are they?

JimmyShoo · 26/04/2022 22:17

Well they’re a terrible manager if they’re discussing the context of other people’s 121s with you.

I suspect it may not be true. Highly unlikely that all the staff would spend their 121 with a new manager slagging off another member of staff.

Aquamarine1029 · 26/04/2022 22:19

I'd bet my wine collection your coworkers didn't say a word about this. Your new manager is shit. I'd be looking for a new job.

Kite22 · 26/04/2022 22:19

JimmyShoo · 26/04/2022 22:17

Well they’re a terrible manager if they’re discussing the context of other people’s 121s with you.

I suspect it may not be true. Highly unlikely that all the staff would spend their 121 with a new manager slagging off another member of staff.

This ^

MardyBumm · 26/04/2022 22:20

A decent manager would not have said this to you.

Original poster
user53234455 · 26/04/2022 22:22

Aquamarine1029 · 26/04/2022 22:19

I'd bet my wine collection your coworkers didn't say a word about this. Your new manager is shit. I'd be looking for a new job.

I asked two of my colleagues if they had mentioned my shifts and they both admitted they had.

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fairylightsandwaxmelts · 26/04/2022 22:25

1-2-1's aren't just about career progression - they should be a chance for people to discuss any issues they have so the manager can work out how to solve them - after all, it's their job to make their staff happy.

That being said, it's highly unprofessional for them to report back to you on what your colleagues have said. If you work part time hours that should be between you and your manager, nobody else.

However, having been a manager who's had to listen to people whinge about other peoples hours, and having been the colleague always expected to cover because Jane is part time and won't/can't help, I sympathise with everyone in this tale lol.

JustLyra · 26/04/2022 22:25

There's no way everyone commented on it, unless it was brought up.

An old boss of mine did that. Everyone moaned about my part time role. What actually happened was he brought it up and people thought their moan would lead to them recruiting the replacement for my job share partner who left. They were not actually moaning about me as was portrayed.

Autienotnaughtie · 26/04/2022 22:27

Even if it's true. Why has the manager told you? What have you gained from knowing? Your colleagues are ignorant dicks and your boss is a twat. I'd try to find something else. I also suspect your boss is going to pressure you to work more hours

Tohaveandtohold · 26/04/2022 22:29

So are you contracted to work part time and doing your contracted hours?
your manager is certainly in need of training. Even if colleagues told her privately and she sees a need to address it, it’s her job to use discretion to discuss it without referring to your colleagues.

PickledElf · 26/04/2022 22:33

What a lovely place you work… could be the staff room at my job… loads of catty bitchy remarks. I found out 2 of the staff were bitching about me… me who asked them which section they want to work on, asked them which breaks they wanted… as soon as I was told they were bitching, confronted them I told them where they were going to work and what time their lunch was… backstabbing bitches

GreenClock · 26/04/2022 22:43

If you’re doing your contracted hours you’ve nothing to worry about.

littlegreenheart · 26/04/2022 22:58

Even if you're not working your established hours, your new manager should at most tell you that and agree with you re how to correct the situation, not blame it on your coworkers. Ask the manager what they would like you to do differently, if anything, and if change is needed then work with them on a plan to transition. For example, if your previous manager agreed that even though your official hours are 8-5 M-F, you could work 10-7 on Thursday to accomodate a weekly appointment. The thoughts and opinions of your colleagues who are not in your direct reporting line (e.g., your manager, your manager's manager, and so on up) are irrelevant to you for this purpose. If your previous boss gave you flextime or "core hours", tell the new boss that - but if it's not in your contract or otherwise in writing, they may not hounour it.

lottiegarbanzo · 26/04/2022 23:05

Well your manager is very unprofessional.

But how come the PT person gets to stick to their contracted hours and the FT ones don't but are expected to do extra hours and work weekends? Are they volunteering for those hours, or being asked to do them?

The FT people are contracted for fixed hours, just as you are. If they are not contracted to work weekends, then they should no more be expected to work them than you should. Rather, if weekend working is required, you should be asked to do half as much of it as they are.

It's not your fault that your employer applies their terms unevenly and it's their own treatment, not yours, that your colleagues are really complaining about. You just provide the contrasting named example of your employer's ability to stick to contracted terms, when they so chose.

MrOllivander · 26/04/2022 23:08

They can go PT then and take the wage drop
Nobody knows what goes on in peoples lives. I work 40hrs FT and don't do overtime. Most other people do, I don't and I have reasons for not doing it. That's between me and my manager

chisanunian · 26/04/2022 23:11

Your colleagues shouldn't be moaning about you and the hours you work. If they have an issue with being short-staffed when you're not there, then that isn't your problem. Your employer agreed your working hours with you, so they have created the problem. If your colleagues don't like it, then they need to complain about the employer's policy, not you personally.

Hawkins001 · 26/04/2022 23:19

user53234455 · 26/04/2022 22:13

New manager started last week and has been having one to ones will all staff. I was the last one in my department to have mine. My new manager told me that all staff had commented on the hours that I work because I only do half days, moaned that I don’t work any weekend shifts and moaned because I don’t work any extra hours and they all do.
Feel upset that they all did that, I didn’t realise one to ones was a chance to moan about colleagues I thought it was a chance to discuss career progression.

It could also be the managers perspectives, but wrapped as if it's your colleagues perspectives instead, but either way, if it's your contracted hours, then that's what matters, but yes on the flip side I understand your colleagues perspectives too.

FirstFallopians · 26/04/2022 23:24

Even when I worked full time I never understood people who moaned about part-timers?

If you fancy working reduced hours, go through the flexible working request process and take the financial hit. It’s not a conspiracy against full timers.

I’d treat your new manager with an air of caution- they seem to be trying to (stupidly) create ructions within the team.

FirstFallopians · 26/04/2022 23:27

Even when I worked full time I never understood people who moaned about part-timers?

If you fancy working reduced hours, go through the flexible working request process and take the financial hit. It’s not a conspiracy against full timers.

I’d treat your new manager with an air of caution- they seem to be trying to (stupidly) create ructions within the team.

ddl1 · 26/04/2022 23:27

I would suspect that the manager is playing his employees off against each other and basically playing the old divide 'n rule game. Maybe he's even told some of the others that you moan about them because, e.g., they get paid more. In any case, he sounds rather dreadful.

iCouldSleepForAYear · 26/04/2022 23:28

Why wouldn't a new manager just want to use a first 1:1 to get to know you? Why would they not want to figure out for themselves what is working for the business and how?

Did you say this manager is a new start?? Who hired this bozo?

I pull plenty of overtime on a PT schedule, BTW. I'm technically on half days in order to engage with my kids when I pick them up from nursery and school. They still have plenty of days where I can't do shit with them because Mummy has a meeting or Mummy has a deadline that someone else badly planned and then delegated to me at the last minute. Hmm It certainly isn't only my FT colleagues who work over their hours. My overtime tends to be discouraged more often by management because my hourly rate is higher than a lot of my FT colleagues'. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Kite22 · 26/04/2022 23:35

JustLyra · 26/04/2022 22:25

There's no way everyone commented on it, unless it was brought up.

An old boss of mine did that. Everyone moaned about my part time role. What actually happened was he brought it up and people thought their moan would lead to them recruiting the replacement for my job share partner who left. They were not actually moaning about me as was portrayed.

I agree with this.

I would hate to be the overall Team Manager for my team, as, due to various historic anomalies, and then combining of teams, she has inherited a real mess of people working on 4 different contract types. There is a lot of underlying resentment about perceived advantages to being on one of the contracts some others are on - many completely justifiable. Now, I am aware our Manager is trying to look in to what she can do to make things more equitable, and her hands are tied by contracts, and, I should imagine, by unions however she would never stir up trouble by asking questions in 1:1s about other people's roles. If she were a poor manager, like yours OP, then it would be easy for her to ask leading questions about working patterns / other T&Cs, so it is more than possible that is what has happened here.

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