Bit of context first please bear with. Im currently on maternity leave, going back to work in a fortnight. In addition to this a big birthday is coming up and DH has said he is going to take me away, which all in all means we have less disposable income than we usually would.
Anyway, cut to last week where I found an immense deal at a holiday park going next week, not including spending money for the four of us it was less than £100. I rang DH and asked him if we could do it, he said yes so I booked.
Fast forward a week DH now says we cannot afford what with my birthday plans coming up and that we can’t go. I asked him why he let me book it and he replied “all I do is try to please you and all you do is nag”.
AIBU to feel hurt by this? I’m disappointed we’re not going as I want to make memories with DC and think it’s a great deal but also I realise that we’re also going away in June for my birthday which I’m super grateful for.
Now we’ve wasted money on the trip away that we’re not going on (talk about dangling a carrot) and I’m feeling annoyed at his comments about being a nag. I think I can be a bit flippant when it comes to money and I know DH is doing his best so I do need to do some work on my attitude towards money but do I have any right to be a bit disappointed? In saying yes to then say no feels even worse to me than just saying no in the first place. He’s gone to bed in a huff because I said I feel disappointed that this is how it’s panned out, not a reflection on him or anything just a feeling. Oh, to which he said I have too many emotions. I just find his style of communication so difficult sometimes. Anyway, AIBU?
Also in typing this, I can preempt some comments about having more visibility of money which I would have to agree with.