If someone said I want a break would you take the hint?

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Situation. I'm in hospital. He's in my house which he now says is his house too because we're married

He's a bully abusive gaslightibg annd it's all come to a head and I said this morning "I want a break/itts the only answer" and he's not taking the hint

I ve got an appointment to speak to the police tomorrow re occ. Order or similar

But if someone said to you that they wanted a break would you dig your heels in or just go?

He says my anxiety is my fault and nothing to do with him (he contributes NNO money and has eaten all the food since I've bn in hospital)

He also ticks two heavy duty boxes on the occupation order checklist sso I can't say too much

Hi I'm sorry you're unwell and sorry also to read your situation.
It's difficult to gauge quite the legalities here- are you well enough to seek some urgent advice?
Rights of Women or Women's aid would be a great shout.
Also good to seek police support whilst you're in hospital.
Best of luck 🤞🏻

I'm sorry to hear that you're unwell.
I know this isn't ideal as it's your house, but if he won't take the hint (he knows what you mean by the way) is there somewhere you could go and stay?
If not, would you feel comfortable telling him outright that you'd like him to leave for a while?

How long have you been married? How long will you be in hospital?

Have been married for 2.5 years. Have had my free half hours advice and solicitor saiid I might be able to do what sshe calls a nuisance payment

Thanks Rosez so he definitely knows what I meaan then.
I'm literalky ggoing mad
He said to me "expand on what you mean by a break"

I just thought he was really stupid or thick skinned.

Thanks for the answers. Xx

Hospital until I can find somewhere to stay but I want to go home. Obviously. But you know what I mean
No refuge places available and my sons at his dad's and its just all a load of shit tbh

I'm not doubting your assessment of your husband OP, but no, if my DH told me he wanted a break I wouldn't automatically take that as my notice to leave my home immediately. I think you're focussing on the wrong thing.

@sweatervest I wonder if you might be better off asking for this to be moved to Relationships - AIBU can be a bit combative when it comes to things like this.

I think your plan to speak to the police and a solicitor is good. Get that occupation order, and get him out, then move back into your own house and keep him out!

Then clarify, you want to split up. Spell it out so he can't pretend he doesn't understand.

File for divorce and get him out of your life.

It's my house in that it's in my name but he would have a claim seeing as we're married but in the meantime if someone said to me that they wanted a break I'd be leaving tbh.
We didn't buy the house together and he doesn't contribute financially

Not sure how to get this moved to relationships tbh

Thanks for the replies

Did you buy the house before you were married? If so, I think he doesn't have a claim on any of it unless he contributed to repairs or upgrades. Even then I think he would struggle to get money from you.