I am just after a little bit of advice here. I’ve been seeing my partner for nearly a year now, we had a slow-ish start to our relationship. I had come out of a three year relationship and was single for around 18 months before we met up so I had a little bit of time to reflect on my previous relationships and realise how bad they were. My partner had just come out of a six year relationship with their ex. After my 18 months of being single and doing a lot of thinking I decided it was time to get back out there so I downloaded Tinder. I was chatting to a couple of people on Tinder but I looked up a colleague I used to work with, we chatted on Facebook for a few months, nothing suggesting there was anything more than friendship involved but we decided to meet up and go for a drink, at that point it wasn’t an actual date, just 2 old friends catching up. After our first meet up we did take things slowly, I think it was at least a week before we met up again. My partner told me they loved their ex (who wouldn’t after 6 years of being in that relationship?) I felt a little insecure at this very early stage, felt that I was just a rebound as my partner would quite often, during conversations, bring up their exes name and talk about things they’d done together. I still had the Tinder app on my phone and was casually chatting to these other 2 people, no dates planned or even talked about. It came out recently that I was still on Tinder after this first meeting with my current partner and they accused me of talking to multiple people at the same time. However, once I felt we had a connection and attraction (around 3 weeks), I decided to delete my Tinder account and although still taking things slowly (cautiously) with my current partner we grew to love each other and have built up what I believe is a great relationship now.
The advice I’m after is this… was I out of order for still keeping my Tinder profile live for the first three weeks of our current relationship? Should it matter that this has come out nearly a year down the line and we have now built and grown our relationship together?