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When do narcissists give up?

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coodawoodashooda · 23/04/2022 22:04

My xh just wont. It has been nearly 10 years and I have just received another message. When will he realise that it is over?

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ErinAndTonic · 23/04/2022 22:18

When you block him?

PinktoothbrushBluetoothbrush · 23/04/2022 22:22

Block everywhere. Especially on all social
media. Ditto friends if they are likely to be in the narcs’ inner circle. Change numbers if you need to. Then ignore completely.

Last resort, police for harassment - although this could add fuel to the delusion, so only as last resort. Sorry you are going through this. 💐

RubyEmma212121 · 23/04/2022 22:23

Yeah I think we need more context.
Do you have kids with him or is he just an old flame? Do you have any level of contact back and forth with him?

Aquamarine1029 · 23/04/2022 22:24

Why on earth haven't you blocked him?

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coodawoodashooda · 23/04/2022 22:24

PinktoothbrushBluetoothbrush · 23/04/2022 22:22

Block everywhere. Especially on all social
media. Ditto friends if they are likely to be in the narcs’ inner circle. Change numbers if you need to. Then ignore completely.

Last resort, police for harassment - although this could add fuel to the delusion, so only as last resort. Sorry you are going through this. 💐

Done all of that.

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coodawoodashooda · 23/04/2022 22:24

PinktoothbrushBluetoothbrush · 23/04/2022 22:22

Block everywhere. Especially on all social
media. Ditto friends if they are likely to be in the narcs’ inner circle. Change numbers if you need to. Then ignore completely.

Last resort, police for harassment - although this could add fuel to the delusion, so only as last resort. Sorry you are going through this. 💐

That I mean.

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coodawoodashooda · 23/04/2022 22:25

RubyEmma212121 · 23/04/2022 22:23

Yeah I think we need more context.
Do you have kids with him or is he just an old flame? Do you have any level of contact back and forth with him?

Youngest is 7. Oldest is 11 but scared so desperate to keep him happy.

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AHungryCaterpillar · 23/04/2022 22:26

When you stop engaging

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coodawoodashooda · 23/04/2022 22:26

RubyEmma212121 · 23/04/2022 22:23

Yeah I think we need more context.
Do you have kids with him or is he just an old flame? Do you have any level of contact back and forth with him?

We have to write in a court ordered book detailing all information about the kids

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Aquamarine1029 · 23/04/2022 22:29

Why do you care if he's happy? Fuck him. Do NOT speak to him over the phone. Force him to write all of his bullshit in texts and emails, that you don't respond to. The court can take a good look at those. Stop cowing to him and stand up for yourself. He is nothing. He has no control over you.

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coodawoodashooda · 23/04/2022 22:35

Aquamarine1029 · 23/04/2022 22:29

Why do you care if he's happy? Fuck him. Do NOT speak to him over the phone. Force him to write all of his bullshit in texts and emails, that you don't respond to. The court can take a good look at those. Stop cowing to him and stand up for yourself. He is nothing. He has no control over you.

I know but when will he realise?

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coodawoodashooda · 23/04/2022 22:50

coodawoodashooda · 23/04/2022 22:35

I know but when will he realise?

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Exactly

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Aquamarine1029 · 23/04/2022 22:55

Stop caring about him "realising" anything. He's a twat. He will never be reasonable, therefore you have to stop allowing him to control you.

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