She has never liked going but iv always put it down to desperation and when she gets there she has fun and always comes back with nice memories. She is now 11 and for at least 2 years hasn’t wanted to go over lockdown she was happy she didn’t have to go. The only thing I can get is that when she was 5 her dads partner shouted at her for a toilet accident . Dd hates anyone shouting at her.
Lately she has started to tell me her dad smacks the 2 younger children and also that he is unfair about stuff giving the younger one more chocolate/pop than her and elder 2. For balance she also says that he and his partner always tell her that she is perfect, the good child and that she is their favourite (I think this is all humour).
last week she told
me that her dad has taken them all to a kids party/bbq and the adults were drinking from about 4pm dad did a ‘shot’. She said they all got a cab back at 9pm all was fine they were up early th e next day.
she has before referenced times they have taken her and the kids out and has drinks and got a taxi back.
this also happened for a few times last year and she says her dad often goes out for the evening and wakes up with a hangover. She is often left with his wife and her siblings. On some occasions she has gone to her grandparents and his wife’s sisters both of which she likes.
she doesn’t want me to say anything but I know she doesn’t like them drinking as she is a bit of a worrier. I found myself really worrying today like is she ok. ? I don’t drink aince having her as drink was a problem for me so i feel like im not balanced is this normal behaviour?
i feel like if he has been drinking tonight im going to have to say something but need advice on the best way to go about it?