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Original poster

To ask if I can take my DC to hospital with me?

46 replies

keeponpushinglove · 22/04/2022 11:12

Shamelessly posting here for traffic purposes Blush

Positive pregnancy test. I have a Mirena coil.

I had a scan arranged for Tuesday to check what's going on.

However I felt off this morning and now have quite intense period pain to the left side. Bleeding, but more like a light period, not heavy. Feel a bit sick and dizzy with it

I'm wary of ectopic pregnancy risk and think it would be sensible to take myself off to A&E but can I take DC?

DH is on his way but he's 4.5 hours away!

Should I wait or can I take them? I know it'll get asked so no, we absolutely don't have anyone to step in and take them for now whilst I go to hospital

Can I take them with me really? One has special needs. The other is a small baby. In a sling. Doesn't have a pram as she's in a sling. How would they even scan me etc?

OP posts:
Sandra2010 · 22/04/2022 12:01

No questions, just go. They'll sort it out when you're there. You shouldn't really drive though, I hate it when people mis-use ambulances but it is needed in your case. Hope you're better soon.

thecurtainsofdestiny · 22/04/2022 12:03

I hope you accepted the ambulance.

10HailMarys · 22/04/2022 15:05

111 advised A&E. and offered an ambulance. I can't get a taxi due to the logistics of it

I'm going to drive up

Why on earth wouldn't you take up the offer of an ambulance?! I guarantee you the paramedics will have dealt with far more difficult things than transporting a mum and two children, regardless of their ages and your son's needs.

lanthanum · 22/04/2022 15:49

Accept the ambulance offer, or book a wheelchair-accessible taxi. DS's chair can be wheeled into that, and taxis are exempt from babyseat requirements so you could just keep DD in a sling (I'm sure the rear-facing-until-they're-15 brigade will be along to argue, but just this once...).

SNWannabe · 22/04/2022 15:52

i’d call back 111 and get the ambulance or call a taxi. Parking and getting into a and e would be difficult for you and if you got worse or passed out you could cause a major accident and harm your children.

Porcupineintherough · 22/04/2022 16:32

Oh of course you should drive if its more convenient @keeponpushinglove . Your convenience is the main thing here, after all. Not your health, not your safety or anyone elses.

If only the nhs offered transport for sick people to reach hospital.

UndertheCedartree · 22/04/2022 16:54

Hope you are ok and getting help now. If not definitely get an ambulance. Driving would be so dangerous x

notapizzaeater · 22/04/2022 16:59

Hope you’re getting help now. For future ref is your son under disabled social services, they can signpost in an emergency.

Original poster
keeponpushinglove · 22/04/2022 17:27

I did get an ambulance. I know it was stupid. It's just so hard. A small baby and a child who's seat is really complex and heavy. I feared about the taxi situation. What if no disabled taxi available? What if it wouldn't fit? Should I just go now?

I got the help I need. Thank you all again for helping me see sense to go go go!

OP posts:
Poppyseed14 · 22/04/2022 17:36

Not stupid at all OP. Please let us know how you get on.

Mariposista · 22/04/2022 18:52

Good luck OP. Let's hope it's just a really bad case of trapped wind (not trying to be funny, it can be extremely painful and can really make pregnant women think they have something awful going on) and you will be home with a cup of tea before you know it.

Original poster
keeponpushinglove · 22/04/2022 20:00

So my coil is still in. They advised taking it out so that's what I'm going to do

I have a cyst on my left ovary that's causing the pain! They're trying to manage it for now and leave it alone

And the pregnancy... 13 weeks gone with baby No.3 Envy Not sure where to go from here but the hospital have been fantastic

Thanks again everyone

OP posts:
thecurtainsofdestiny · 22/04/2022 20:14

Am glad you are ok OP!

Matchingcollarandcuffs · 22/04/2022 20:26

Blimey OP, what a day for you. How are you and DH taking the news?

Good luck with it all, that’s a lot to take in

ChickpeaPie · 22/04/2022 20:32

Those saying it’s fine to take the kids, what happens if she has to go to emergency surgery? Who looks after the kids then?

itsgettingweird · 22/04/2022 20:36

ChickpeaPie · 22/04/2022 20:32

Those saying it’s fine to take the kids, what happens if she has to go to emergency surgery? Who looks after the kids then?

In this situation then SS would arrange emergency care until DH arrived.

It's actually better to be in hospital in this situation than at home because they have the contacts.

OP - hope you feel better soon and manage to get your head around all this. Flowers

Theunamedcat · 22/04/2022 20:41

I've taken my kids in to hospital before one of the nurses sacrificed her break to cuddle the baby while I was seen 😳her friend covered her later so she could pee I had actually arranged someone to meet me but they let me down

RoseAndRose · 22/04/2022 20:44

ChickpeaPie · 22/04/2022 20:32

Those saying it’s fine to take the kids, what happens if she has to go to emergency surgery? Who looks after the kids then?

The hospital will cope/ As they do whenever they find themselves with otherwise unattended DC (its not exactly unheard of at in emergency situations).

Yes its a PITA, bit its better than the alternative if the sole adult needs emergency surgery - circumstances which are obviously not trivial. First line is staff, then (in larger hospitals) vetted hospital volunteers if it's expected to be only brief. Hospital social workers will be involved asap, especially if there's any possibility overnight care will be needed and wider family/suitable friends cannot be reached.

But it didn't come to that for OP. Glad you're OK keeponpushinglove

All the best with getting your mind round no3!

Ducksurprise · 22/04/2022 21:20

For those asking mine were first taken to the children's ward and allowed to play in the playroom and then they called SS. This was in the time of actual functioning children's centres one of the most valuable resources that the Conservatives cut. SS organised for the children's centre worker who knew them to collect them and take them back to my house (with my blessing) whilst my dh flew back from France.
I now offer emergency Foster care. In this situation now they would come to me via SS. It happens a few times a year ( I only do emergency FC) normally I have them for a few hours whilst a family member arrives. Sometimes for a night or two. During covid I had my longest stay of 4 weeks before they moved into longer term FC whilst their parent recovered in hospital.

Parentcarerandcrazy · 22/04/2022 21:30

Glad to hear things sound fine OP. FWIW I carried my babies in slings too both due to necessity and loving it - while pregnant with no. 3, I had a 2yo with ASD and a baby - there's less than a year between my two youngest. I attended midwife appointments and regular hospital clinics due to pregnancy complications and I took my DD in her sling to the majority of them. If I needed to take her out so I could be examined, I would tend to sit her on my chest, or if I was being weighed, I just asked the nurse to hold her - they always jumped at the chance! Of course a midwife or nurse in maternity clinics wouldn't tend to get to hold a baby all that often so they were always thrilled to see my daughter (and probably thought I was slightly bonkers too 🤣)

UndertheCedartree · 23/04/2022 19:51

Ducksurprise · 22/04/2022 21:20

For those asking mine were first taken to the children's ward and allowed to play in the playroom and then they called SS. This was in the time of actual functioning children's centres one of the most valuable resources that the Conservatives cut. SS organised for the children's centre worker who knew them to collect them and take them back to my house (with my blessing) whilst my dh flew back from France.
I now offer emergency Foster care. In this situation now they would come to me via SS. It happens a few times a year ( I only do emergency FC) normally I have them for a few hours whilst a family member arrives. Sometimes for a night or two. During covid I had my longest stay of 4 weeks before they moved into longer term FC whilst their parent recovered in hospital.

I completely agree with you re: Children's Centres - they did amazing work!

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