DH and Covid

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I know I am but need to vent.

DH ill in bed with covid since Monday. Will only grunt at me or send a text to ask for things to be left outside the spare bedroom door.

In the meantime I’ve just been offered a new job and really wanted to celebrate. We’re going on holiday next week and I’m desperately trying not to get ill. Wanted to have a nice weekend prepping for holiday but that’s not going to happen now. DC’s birthday tomorrow and have to organise and run the party single-handedly on top of working full time, disinfecting the house and everything else.

Im being unreasonable aren’t I?

I just had covid for the first time and it was very unpleasant and the fatigue was so bad, not as bad as the influenza virus for me though. Still got mucus 3 weeks on. Only 1 AZ jab a year ago. So yeah I think mild means no hospital or intervention other than rest and painkillers.

course it’s going to be horrible for you baring all the brunt but hopefully your holiday will make up for it and you can celebrate then🤞🏻

Am fit healthy and not often ill I was in bed for a week with covid feeling bloody awful then wiped out for the next week. I isolated in a spare room and managed not to infect Dh or either child.

Dh did everything for 3 weeks actually as I had been away the first week on a jolly which was where I got it. Not a word of complaint- he did absolutely everything and has a “big job” as well.

You don't want any of you to catch covid so you have asked dh to isolate which is the sensible yhing to do. However, it sounds like you're shouldering alot and i understand you maybe feel stressed and overwhelmed. Something that would have been shared is now solely on you and it's ok to feel how you feel about it. Just keep thinking of your child's birthday and your upcoming holiday. Also congratulations on your new job, hopefully you can celebrate it while you're away next week 🎉🍾

We currently have it. For us, it's been like a bad cold, but I get that it's worse for others. DH went down first with a positive test last Thurs. His test is still positive today, on day 9, albeit much fainter. Some people test negative after five days but there's a reason it was ten days isolation for ages. In my experience, symptomatic people take around ten days to test neg so all this "he should be over it" is BS.

I would have thought he would be testing negative by now, in which case he doesn't need to be isolating and can probably help out a bit.
My mum tested positive on Thursday and is still showing as positive. I tested positive on Sunday and have just tested negative, but according to NHS app should isolate until tomorrow, ergo, he needs to be isolating until Sunday.

That aside, cOVID is horrible, so even if he’s negative he might still be feeling unable to do anything.

I have actually been fortunate. I have a serious heart condition and I have had it relatively mild albeit that it has been absolutely horrible. But for those saying it’s just mild, good for you. Don’t be so bloody smug as to go around stating that it’s nothing when that doesn’t apply to everyone.

Also seemed no rhyme or reason as to who had it badly several of us fit and healthy types quite Ill the beer and chips no exercise ones seemed to have it mildly!

Is he actually that ill? I thought it had got milder?

It really doesn't work that way.
I had it last year and it was nothing but a sniffle. Caught it again a few weeks ago and I was bedridden for days. I'm still coughing my guts up and feel terrible.

Of course you don't need to disinfect the house! Just stop all the testing & let everyone get on with their lives as normal.

Give over. sensible people aren't passing it onto their family & their kids friends.

teats are behaving as if it's stopped existing.

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sorry to hear you & you mum both have it! I'm relieved to hear you're ok though! A real worry with your heart my friend xx

Do you think if we stopped testing for cancer it would disappear, or TB, or pregnancy even?

Sorry op but you sound very “me me me” about it.

not sure what you are expecting of him? It’s not a nice illness - even for the fit and young - even if fewer people are dying from it

and I assume you’re not inviting kids to your home for the party given there is covid

This is not true. My household were very poorly with it a few weeks ago. Getting fed up with people saying it's mild.

Surely it wouldn’t be difficult to acknowledge that I’ve got a lot on as well.

a birthday party
And a holiday

oh give over OP! You’re embarrassing yourself 😂

To acknowledge you've got a lot on? Really? Just get on with it. My dh also has covid. He feels pretty rough but I'm choosing to support him rather than feel sorry for myself. Jesus some people are so self absorbed.

Lots of people are still quite poorly with it, even if not vulnerable.
it being milder simply means less people are having to be hospitalised with the newer variant.

I’ve known several people catch covid recently. Most have been ill with very heavy cold like symptoms, struggling to sleep due to coughing so much, ongoing headaches, aches and pains and breathing being harder. My dh is rarely ill tbh but he had it last week and spent a good 4-5 days with very very heavy cold symptoms, much worse than the cold he had about a fortnight before. A week or so since he is still coughing a lot all day/night and is much tireder and achy than usual.

Re avoiding it. It seems really random. Dh never caught it both times I’ve had it. I never caught it when dh had it. 20y dd has never caught it despite being in contact with it many times. We test fairly regularly as I get free tests and can access antivirals if caught quick enough. Dd has done antibody tests and doesn’t seem to have ever had it. We didn’t isolate within the home. Dh and I stayed sharing the same bed, rooms, bathroom, kitchen, etc. We didn’t disinfect anywhere.

Re still being ill on day 5…

Monday tested positive - day 0 so today is day 5.

it is definitely not usual to test positive and still be feeling unwell on day 5. Dh didn’t test negative until the end of day 6. Even now several days later he isn’t totally well and his coughing is keeping him (and me!) awake a lot.
Although I tested negative by day 6 this was mainly due to the antivirals I had in day 5 - felt shocking at that point b]and took a while to recover after.
Both parents, and mil, recently had it. None tested negative until day 8 onwards. All felt poorly for longer.

Iirr day 5 can often be the peak time for feeling unwell too. It’s often when the virus either starts to improve or can take a turn for the worse.

I tested positive 4 weeks ago, went from healthy to bed ridden in hours. Moving from lying to sitting was taking 10 minutes of recovery.
Am now undergoing tests as still struggling to breath normally.
Dh has done everything for the last month and his only complaints have come when I've tried to do things and become unwell. He tells me to sit down.
Yesterday I peeked potatoes for dinner, something that usually takes 5 mins took me 20. It's horrible.

To rub salt into the wound I caught it off my vulnerable family member who had a sniffle.
Thank goodness for mumsnet keeping me occupied when I have too much time on my hands.

I was still testing positive on day 12.