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Peed off with hubby

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purplemonkey654 · 21/04/2022 22:32

We've just had a wonderful 4 nights away on a caravan holiday. The weathers been great and we've had some lovely family time and fun days out with our DS.
Home tomorrow and we've had a falling out because I got an email from the caravan site saying there were extra nights available, so I was like let's do it straight away, but hubby said no we're going home tomorrow.
My reasons were were already away so we've got everything with us, what's an extra night and it just makes our holiday that but longer. It's only £80 for one more night.
His reasons are we've had a great time, tomorrow we are due to go home and he thinks £80 for an extra night is not that much of a deal. I couldn't care less and just wanted an extra night away as we were having a great time.
😤

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SnowingInApril · 21/04/2022 22:40

We've just had a wonderful 4 nights away on a caravan holiday
Are you sure “we” is accurate? Sounds like he’s had enough.

Theredtoyphone · 21/04/2022 22:43

Maybe he hasn’t enjoyed it as much as you think/you have?

I do think £80 is quite a lot for one night and I’d be ready to get back to my own bed after 4 nights in a caravan bed..

SleepingStandingUp · 21/04/2022 22:46

£80 for one night I na caravan seems a lot but can understand you not wanting it to end. Don't let it ruin the holiday tho

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purplemonkey654 · 21/04/2022 22:47

He definitely has enjoyed it the time we've been here but we are different when it comes to going home from a break/Holiday. He is upbeat and ready to get home, back to normality and just have enjoyed the time we've had away, where as I always feel sad when it's time to go home and back to reality and I would quite happily stay longer 😂

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DelphiniumBlue · 21/04/2022 22:48

Well you've just got different opinions. Why does he want to go home now? Does he want time at home before going back to work?
It's a shame he doesn't feel the same as you, how are you going to come to a mutually acceptable agreement?

DolphinaPD · 21/04/2022 22:48

He sounds miserable, I'd be pee'd off too.

Springhassprung86 · 21/04/2022 22:49

Neither of you are in the wrong for how you feel, it’s just a different view. Don’t let it spoil the lovely time you’ve had.

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purplemonkey654 · 21/04/2022 22:49

I feel this time it's a battle of wills and he's won but he's almost trying to make a point that 'it's time to come home we've had a great time why can't I just be happy with that' but I just feel annoyed that another night wouldn't have hurt

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LampLighter414 · 21/04/2022 22:58

He's allowed to have a different opinion.

Also some people are not so spontaneous and find changes to plans/expectations stressful. He has presumably operated the past however long with the expectation that he has X amount of time off and you will be home on Friday and have a weekend of being at home or doing whatever else he may have had planned in his head before back to work on Monday (just assuming all of this as an example)

Honestly I generally think the person who wants to stick to a pre agreed plan/expectation actually trumps the person wanting to take up a short notice opportunity spontaneously.

FabFitFifties · 21/04/2022 23:11

You want to, he doesn't, you've had your agreed 4 days, not worth falling out over. Don't sulk.

ivegotthisyeah · 21/04/2022 23:17

I've just done for nights in a caravan even if they offered an extra night for free I'd be off. Couldn't wait for my own bed and some room!

LoveLarry · 21/04/2022 23:37

Maybe he's pissed off with wifey and wants to get home

4 days in a caravan should be enough for anyone

stiritwithaknife · 21/04/2022 23:47

YABU.

If you can't agree on the amendment, you have to stick to the original plan. Drop it and don't ruin the memory of this vacation.

If there's an underlying reason why you don't want to go back to reality whereas he's happy to get back to normality - for example, he's not doing his fair share and leaving all the drudgework to you - then address that separately.

Sunnytwobridges · 22/04/2022 02:05

purplemonkey654 · 21/04/2022 22:47

He definitely has enjoyed it the time we've been here but we are different when it comes to going home from a break/Holiday. He is upbeat and ready to get home, back to normality and just have enjoyed the time we've had away, where as I always feel sad when it's time to go home and back to reality and I would quite happily stay longer 😂

Neither of you are wrong. But I’m just like your DH- I prefer the comforts of home. Four days away is more than enough and I’d be ready for my own bed. As long as he enjoyed the time you were on holiday then take that and be happy, don’t let it spoil your memories.

NoSquirrels · 22/04/2022 02:52

purplemonkey654 · 21/04/2022 22:49

I feel this time it's a battle of wills and he's won but he's almost trying to make a point that 'it's time to come home we've had a great time why can't I just be happy with that' but I just feel annoyed that another night wouldn't have hurt

He’s not ‘almost trying to make a point’ - he is literally making the point that in his opinion you’ve had a great time don’t spoil it because he would rather go home as agreed.

Some people are more spontaneous than others. It’s not a character flaw unless you insist it is.

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