To be annoyed he doesn’t show an interest?

[Feelingpoorly123]

Been home for an hour and a half. No ‘how are you?’ ‘How was your day?’. Plus I had a really anxiety inducing assignment today which I told him about. I show an interest and ask how he is doing every single day. Plus only had sex about once in the last year. He says he wants to but never initiates it. Is this relationship over as i am fearing?

Do you initiate sex?

Do you ask how he is?

It says right in the post!

She quite clearly says, in the very succinct op, that she does do every day.

op have you talked about you are feeling?

Maybe he is annoyed with you asking every day?

Determined to make it the OPs fault then?

Tbh OP I'd struggle with so little intamacy. Maybe you need to have a proper chat with your bloke about the future of your relationship.

Does he work?, is he suffering from depression? , Does he have ED ?Health problems ?. Do you have any idea why/how things deteriorated to this point ?

Is this relationship over as i am fearing

This isn't something that's decided for you. You're unhappy. You decide if it's over.

The lack of interest in your day is so uncaring my ex was like that . Have you asked him why he doesn't ask ? Are you affectionate with each other ?

Some background required here I feel. How long have you been together and did he ask how your day was before?

If this negative behaviour is new then there could be a cause. Depression, low mood, stress from work or simply the relationship fizzling.

However, it may not be. It could just be a misunderstanding. I dated a wonderful autist for 2 years. A beautiful person that I am still friends with today. However, in the beginning it required I adapt to her autism and we had more blunt & open communication. In the beginning I found that she didn't ask how I was and after saying she loved me once she didn't say it again. I was so anxious and worried. When I finally got the courage up to face the issue, we sat down and we talked about it. She calmly informed me that she figured if I had anything interesting to say about how I was, positive of negative, that I would say, so she felt asking was her being nosey and pressuring me which she didn't want to do because she didn't wnat to upset me or annoy me. As for the 'love you' problem, she quite matter of factly told me that she had told me she loved me once already so why would she need to repeat it? It is a fact and she would only need to bring it up again if it changed, the same with telling me I was attractive and smart (Funnily enough she did tell me she wasn't in love with me anymore when we later broke up for mutual reasosns). After a long chat she tried to understand my worries and did try in future to ask more about how I was and to say 'love you' more. More importantly it let me know i was secure in our relationship and opened the door for me being more open about how I felt without needing to wait to be prompted by polite questions about how I am.

Please talk to your fella. You won't know if this is a real issue caused by something or a misunderstanding that can be remedied until you talk.

Best of luck.

Not at all. If he is annoyed with this he should be telling her. I was just thinking if his life is crap at the moment being asked about it might not help.

You probably need to have a heart to heart with him OP. Might be tough.