growing up so fast

[Newmama93]

i keep reading how difficult it is when your kiddies grow up and how fast it goes, it’s almost scary. My son is now 1 and I’m absolutely in love with this age. The year last has gone before my eyes, I can’t believe it.

I keep reading it’s a grief when they grow up and you lose the toddler you had and it’s like a different person. It makes me a little scared for the future and I don’t want to become a mess as my son grows, I want to enjoy it.

Is it just as good becoming a nanna? does it feel like a loss or do you always look at them like your little kids?

im hormonal!

Also to add I think this may be my only Bub and I can’t imagine not seeing his two top teeth and cheeky grin... I’m going to miss his sweet little voice and the way he adores his mummy. So hard

Aww, I totally understand how you are feeling. Big hugs to you. I've definitely pondered the same myself. With my 3 year old and each new stage has felt bitter sweet. I've simultaneously pined over the past, enjoyed the present stage and looked forward to - whilst being scared of the future. Such an emotional rollercoaster! I only have the experience of a 3 year old and a 6 month old, so I don't know what is to come. But I literally thought this morning how much I love this age at 3!! So you will continue to have those moment I'm sure 💕. I would just try to remind yourself it's totally normal to miss the previous stages and worry about the future - not that it makes it any easier - but I promise this will be balanced out by the joy of each new milestones too.

If it's any reassurance having a second bubba has been quite the whirlwind in my experience and I feel like I haven't had as much time and energy to lap up all the milestones and stages like I did with the first (as guilt as writing that out makes me feel) - I know other friends who feel the same - so I think having your first child is an experience that can't be replicated if that makes sense? I don't know if that's reassuring or even sadder now I've read that back. But just want you to know you're not alone.

Guilty* that was meant to say

Don’t worry too much. I seem to remember thinking every stage was the best so far with only a few exceptions.

My youngest turned 18 this month, my eldest is 21 this year. I have loved every stage, the pride as they become independent and negotiate the world is huge.

Thanks everyone. I guess it’s like the little person he is today will be gone one day and he won’t be who he is today and that’s a hard reality to grip.

He'll always be him ❤️

No, the little one year old he is today wont always be here, but the ever-growing version with new skills, growing personality etc will be and you will love each version just as much. My boys are now 19 and 16 and, as a PP said, I've loved every stage! If anything, I think the teenage years have been my favourite. I'm immensely proud of the kind, considerate and funny young men they've grown into and the fact that we are still very close. It is an absolute joy to look at my sons and realise I love spending time with them not just because they are my children, but because they are amazing human beings who make me laugh, give me a different perspective on the world and who are lovely to be around.

Do I ever look back wistfully on their baby and toddler years? Of course! But this stage is just as good and I get a lot more sleep!

Agree with this completely. I am now a Nana, and I can’t tell you how wonderful it is. And when you’re a grandparent you have more time to enjoy each stage even more. My two grew up in a blur while I had to work full time and run a home, but I have more free time to devote to my grandchildren and it’s such a privilege to be able to look after them.