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Aibu to leave my job

5 replies

Passedmybedtime · 21/04/2022 11:38

I'm unhappy at my workplace.
I'm fed up being spoken down to like I'm a piece of poo or treated like i'm stupid. I work in the nhs and I'm 'only' an hca. I'm sick of being left to move 20 stone men myself while there's a nurse sitting at the nurses station having tea. I requested annual leave, I never got any dates I asked for. So all my children's birthdays I will miss as I'm on nightshift those days.
I'm grateful I have a job, though my limits are now stretched. I'm sick of leaving work and sitting in a car park crying my eyes out after a long shift and agonising sore back.
I'm applying for new jobs, I have zero qualifications but care work, any suggestions?? some of my friends suggested supermarkets, due to being nervous in crowds that wouldn't be ideal for me.

Am I unreasonable for throwing towel in and just going elsewhere?

OP posts:
nearlyspringyay · 21/04/2022 11:39

No you're not. What else can you do?

MiseryWIthAStent · 21/04/2022 11:40

Absolutely not OP Flowers

Wahey1980 · 21/04/2022 17:51

Could you go for an admin job in the nhs?

Something like Patient Pathway Coordinator - get you working normal hours and you'd already have nhs experience, in my nearest trust I'd have said it was a bit like being in a small call centre on the hospital site. But you would honestly have a massive benefit of having nhs knowledge and more use to the lingo and hospital terms than a complete newcomer I'd have said.

Sorry it is getting you down x

DontCareDontStare · 21/04/2022 18:03

Bollocks to being grateful you have a job. During lockdown I was told i should be grateful I have a job.. No, I said, this place should be grateful I work here.
I worked for the police and was referred to as only junior staff… I was junior staff we all were who weren’t actual police or managers. I got pissed off with the you’re ONLY junior.. I said yes without us you’d have no finances, no pay, no overtime, no forensic work… entitled wankers
I get pissed off quite a bit 😂

Junepassing · 21/04/2022 23:08

YANBU! I'm an HCA too and can completely relate to everything you're saying! I work in primary care which is mildly better than ward work. GPs and nurses are amazing don't get me wrong . . but I work harder than they do, not necessarily intellectually harder, I realise that, but I'm run ragged most days and see more face to face appointments than anyone else there and have done throughout the pandemic, no mention or claps for us though or other support workers/admins and AHPs who have been flat out during the pandemic risking catching covid constantly. Everything you hear from the media and public is 'Doctors and nurses'.

I work with amazing nurses where I am now, but I remember all too well working on a busy ward with very sick, immobile patients, many of whom had dementia, and having orders barked at me from nurses sitting behind a nurses station. You can upskill as much as you want, kill yourself trying to please everyone and care for the patients with the utmost compassion, but you'll always be 'just an HCA', and you'll burn yourself out in the process. Oh except we can't suffer from burn out of course, that is the reserve of more high powered 'worthy' professions.

If you can, retrain, not nursing mind . . There are loans and bursaries available and part time bank work to support yourself. I'm going to uni this year and the idea of sitting in lectures and writing essays sounds like bliss. The years of doing all of the physical hard work that no one else wants to do have really taken a toll on my physical health, back and shoulders. Seriously work on a plan to get out of there! The more of us that leave the more they might realise that we deserved more than minimum wage pay, crippled backs and constant belittling remarks, much more x

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