Im 4 months into a relationship. A few days ago she said she needed to go upstairs to ring her daughter. I went into the hall later and could hear hear talking in a very romantic way to somebody who i presumed was another man. It was very very friendly and they were even planning to meet up for dinner when she returns back to her home city in 3 weeks time. I went upstairs and said "hi to your daughter"....She said it wasnt her daughter it was a Andy a good friend from back home. I was very suspicious stressed and worried but said nothing.
2 days later her phone was unattended. I succumbed to the pressure and read her Whatsapp. After she had finished the call the other night her and this fella started exchanging very steamy x rated chat of what they want to do to each other.
When i confronted her she went into defensive mode saying it meant nothing to her and was very sorry. She was furious that i looked at her phone and repeated this several times.
She also said she felt that she needed validation from another man because during a drunken argument we had 1 month ago i said some nasty things to her about her physical appearance.
I dont actually remember what i said but its 100% not true, I was just been horrible in the moment and throwing some mud back at her. A bit of tit for tat but its obviously really wounded.
Ive told her yesterday im exceptionally sorry for making her feel bad about herself. Im gutted i hurt her that way.
Its all be turned on me but she has said sorry.
But was i within my right to check on her phone.
If i hadnt been given any cause i would not have done it.
I would like to see this from a womans point of view. Thankyou.