To ask what you think the definition of a Disney dad is please?

[Purplelotuslover11]

I think my partner is one. But would like others thoughts on the definition!

I agree Onlyforcake. Disney Dad at home. It's the opposite to some Dads but he never sits down near them just watching them play or does low key stuff with them (the park/shops) when he's on his own with them. It's constant hi octane or treat activities and rushing them around to keep them busy and entertained. Subsequently they are knackered and overstimulated. It's too much. It comes from the heart but I wish he could relax at home with them sometimes. I don't want them to start expecting 3 big activities a day as the norm. He's so busy concentrating on the playing part of parenting, I think the day to day grind escapes him.

Rarely sees or spends time with kids unless it's a trip to Disney land or other insta moment. Feeds the kids sugar, but not there for the dental visits. Buys them iPads, but not there for the screen time rows and doesn't bother get insurance so when it inevitably breaks Mum ends up out of pocket. The NRP who may or may not pay maintenance, but if they don't will think buying the child designer clothes or an overpriced birthday gift exemplifies them from paying regular maintenance. Probably doesn't Stick to the contact schedule as it's too boring or inconvenient, will turn up on a random Tuesday 5 minutes before dinner time with a McDonald's for the kids and a brand new bike each for them. Mums dinner will go in the bin, kids will be too hyped to sleep. Kids think he's amazing, until he runs out of cash some time in their teenage years and they realise that he's flaky, inconsistent and shallow.

It's extreme performance parenting. Lots of pictures of fun days out. But probably has never thought about meals, health, appointments, choosing a school (unless there's that whole oh it's outstanding don't you know).

they probably have tons of pictures of their child but couldn't name one of their friends.

Just to add DH does do the day to day too and is a lovely Dad who gives them a lot of attention but it's the fact he feels he cannot spend time with them without going over the top with multiple activities and trips and then it's all too much for them. They think it's great of course and it's nice he takes them out obviously but I try to tell him that sometimes they are just as happy at the park/shops/scooter walks/bumbling around/supervising when they do their own thing. He wears himself out.

Yes. Yes it is. 😞

That's so sad you begrudge him speaking to his kids, however often. Assuming they live elsewhere, I imagine he misses then greatly and wants to include them in his life.

Your partner is not a Disney dad.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to see your kids over facetime when you speak to them. My parents are in their 70s and rarely call me normally, it's always facetime!

That's not a Disney dad that's a dad who is involved in his children's lives. You sound jealous or petty or both.

I would say a Disney Dad is someone who takes his kids out once in a while because he feels he has to- it's a chore; but he wants to look good.

Someone who takes the easy road. No interest in giving the DC nourishing food, making sure they clean their teeth, spend time outdoors moving their bodies etc.

Sees the other parent as the default parent. So will make plans with no consideration for the DC at all.

Performance parents when out and about but is a neglectful parent at home.

Shows no respect or appreciation for the other parent

Can equally apply to dads who are still in relationships with the mother of their DC and very sadly there are plenty of them.

This is my ex husband. To a T.