My dad died and I don't feel sad

[Nickwinkle]

My dad passed away at the beginning of the month. It was a slow, painful death so I find relief that he's not suffering anymore.

My problem is that I don't think I feel as sad as I should be. I've carried on as though everything is normal. I didn't have much contact with my family so I don't know if this is why I don't miss him, or it doesn't feel like he's gone.

I haven't told anyone that he's died other than my employer, for reason that I'll need a day off for his funeral. The odd family friend has messaged me to offer condolences but it doesn't feel real and I don't want sympathy. In a way I feel like I'm not allowed to mourn and if I do it's attention seeking

Is this normal? Is there something wrong with me?

It seems everyone grieves in their own way, and I've been similar to you.

My dm died six months ago, and we were fairly close. Yet, I'm still waiting for grief to hit me - my siblings have been devastated and I feel guilty that I have just accepted it (she was unwell for a year or so before her death, and I mainly feel grateful that she didn't suffer too much or end up in hospital, and died peacefully at home with family around her)

Me too.
I was devastated- as we got on so well, and I love him enormously.
But I never have had the big wave of grief I expected- and its5 years ago now.
I miss him and would give anything to spend the day with him/ just call him, but haven't cried properly or felt low about it.
Maybe it's because everything was in order. A full life well lived.
It's different for us all I guess.
Take care and all the best for the funeral.