To be in love with DH but to fancy celebs?

[Fruitteatime]

Now I presume it's not unusual to find celebrities attractive. However my DH is male and I only ever fantasise about woman in the media. Pretty much all my crushes since a teenager have been female and I rarely find men attractive. I don't know what this means and I do wonder whether I would have had a relationship with a women if I hadn't met my DH at 16. I definitely love my DH and enjoy being physical together. I just don't know what the above means and don't know whether I should be trying to do something about it.

No response- I guess no one else identifies. Not sure if how I feel is reasonable or unreasonable now!

Have you ever found women in real attractive? Do you find your husband are men in real life attractive?

Do you have a good sex life with DP ? If so then surely there isn't a problem. Maybe you are bi ? Maybe you are fantasising about being one of these very attractive females ? I'm sure someone will be along with a good explanation. I just didn't want to leave without Commenting.

I guess you're probably bi, or gay but happen to love your husband. I's not really a big deal, so long as you're happy in your marriage.

I’ve never been attracted to a real life woman but I’ve spent a lot of time looking at photos of Shakira and Anna Kournikova in my time. I wouldn’t go so far as to call it fantasising but I also don’t fantasise about male celebrities that I like. If you just like how they look I don’t think it means anything, if you fantasise about being sexual with them then it might well do but if you are bisexual I don’t think it has to alter anything if you love DH. Surely a lot of bi people marry someone of the opposite sex even if they still find the same sex attractive.

It sounds like you’re bisexual; nothing wrong with that

I can relate. Met my DH fairly young. Been together happily for 20 years. But I've realised that I fancy women and would probably explore that if I wasn't married to DH (which I'm not planning to change).

For a while I was a bit bothered by this but now I've kind of just accepted that this will remain a fantasy rather than a reality.

Do what about it?
Assuming you want to stay with your husband,?
Maybe you are bisexual,but unless you want to jeapordise your relationship I'm not sure it's wise to do anything about it.

I just don't know what the above means and don't know whether I should be trying to do something about it

My guess is that it probably means you're bisexual. Being bisexual doesn't necessarily mean you're attracted to an equal number of men and women - maybe you're more likely to prefer women, but occasionally a man will turn your head and you enjoy straight sex and your long-term partner is a man because he happened to the person you felt was right for you.

I don't really know what you mean by 'trying to do something about it'. Do you mean having an affair with a woman or what? If you love your DH and enjoy sex with him, I don't think you need to do anything, to be honest. If you weren't attracted to him and found sex an ordeal, then the thing to do would to be separate, but it doesn't sound like that's the case.

(My sister's best friend is the other way around, ie most of the people she fancies are men, but for the past 20 years she's been happily living with a woman.)