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Homelessness and special needs child

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Pennythoughts28 · 18/04/2022 16:06

I have a 6 year old son who has autism and is awaiting ADHD assessment, he has a statement in local school and full time one on one support which whom he's built a great relationship with , my landlord after telling us we could buy the house has sold it too someone eles because they offered him more money 💔 he didn't even come back to us with a higher price , or tell me it was sold I heard from a neighbour who knows who bought it 💔 I cannot find any homes for sale in local area within budget I have family willing to purchase a home as a investment I could rent off , the council has offered a b&b miles out , I don't drive there is no public transport as they have offered my a rural area and I can't afford the taxi fares they said they woudlnt help with that , only thing I could do is remove him from the school which has took him 3 years to settle into and then apply for statement and one on one support in the school in the rural area which could take months , he can't attend school full day without it , the council work on points based system and are refusing to give me points for my son's needs even tho I know they give them for having a child with autism that doesn't require the help my son does , my whole support network is within the area I am in now , does anyone have any advice , I've contacted every political party within the area and I'm just going round in circles , my housing advisor pretended to be off sick for 2 years untill I said I was going to put a complaint in then they told me to hold the line and it's a miracle they passed my call to her who was in the office in the 2 years they refused to give me a new covering housing advisor and kept telling me to ring back next day to see if she was in , I was told she had left the job completely on a few occasions too and comments like she's still off she has the life of it while I'm losing my hair in chunks due to the stress of this , they just refuse to help or even accept the position I've found myself in , I can't just take my son out of school I will get into trouble and it would have a devestating impact on him , the principal sent them a letter explaining he would be very concerned if my son left the school they haven't even acknowledged the letter , housing rights told me to get in writing why she feels I don't have a complex case due to my son's issues , she hasn't bothered , I have sent Dla award letters carers award letters on advise of housing rights they haven't acknowledged them , I sent all my son's relevant letters like speech and language ect they said they lost them , I have put a complaint in I have heard nothing back , they said they could take my things into storage but if a family member buys me a house or I find a rental they won't let me get my stuff back unless I pay for the storage from first day it was put in which is 150 pound a day , any advise as I'm in a terrible state about it thanks

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Pennythoughts28 · 19/04/2022 15:54

The. I will get into trouble for not sending him to school and I can't send him to a school without a statement lol I'm so stuck with no way out tbh 💔

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Overthebow · 19/04/2022 17:31

You need to decide what it is that you want and what is achievable. The council can’t magic up accommodation in the area you want if it’s not available or there are higher priority people who are ahead of you on the list.

Your options seem to be taking the council accommodation offered out of the area you’d like, moving in with family, or renting privately in the area you’d like. You need to decide which is best for you out of these options.

If you really want to stay in the same area can you work more hours to be able to afford the rent? Most people do have to do this if they want to stay in their chosen area, or move to a cheaper area.

Pennythoughts28 · 19/04/2022 19:25

I coudlnt afford the childcare and it would outway the extra hours anyways , I would ideally just rent somewere eles but it's too expensive, I think my only option is too move out of the area which I don't think myself or my son will cope very well with , it would even be better if I was offered a house but it's a b&b my son would go stir crazy he's being assessed for ADHD and I don't drive and it's in middle of nowhere 💔

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Stresseddout · 20/01/2023 13:00

What county in Northern Ireland? I do feel your stress and will include your situation in my prayer

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