Ex won't watch child

[unk1234]

Recently split with fiancé and since son was born I've always worked early shifts at weekend to save on childcare, now that we have split and he has moved out he said he won't be watching son every weekend.
Baring in mind he watches him a Friday 6/7 hour and a sat maybe 5 hours till my dad takes him for the afternoon.
I don't think I'm being unreasonable as he doesn't see him during the week maybe 10 mins a day before he goes to bed then the time he has a weekend?
Unsure what to do as I feel at a loss and my job doesn't work around childcare.

I'd see a solicitor and get a schedule set for when your ex will see your dc, and also claim from CMS.

Do you have any family you could ask to babysit? I'd work at all flexible? Could DC start nursery or a CM and you work in the week?

Sadly assuming you are resident parent you cannot force your ex to be a parent for any period of time. A court can insist you make your child available for time with his other parents but cannot force the other parent to take the child for that time.

Contact is about time for the child, not about the practicalities of parenting small children which is incredibly annoying when that impacts on the residents parent chance of earning because the non resident parent chooses not to keep up their part of the bargin struck when the children were decided on. (Whilat maintaining / enjoying their own income and social life)

@springtimeishereagain

I'd see a solicitor and get a schedule set for when your ex will see your dc, and also claim from CMS.

Do you have any family you could ask to babysit? I'd work at all flexible? Could DC start nursery or a CM and you work in the week?

Family work during the week and his parents spend 90% of time away from home on holiday, I can work during the week but it would mean he picks up ds from childcare and put him to bed( which he has already said he won't be doing as he goes to the gym)

@LittleOwl153

Sadly assuming you are resident parent you cannot force your ex to be a parent for any period of time. A court can insist you make your child available for time with his other parents but cannot force the other parent to take the child for that time.

Contact is about time for the child, not about the practicalities of parenting small children which is incredibly annoying when that impacts on the residents parent chance of earning because the non resident parent chooses not to keep up their part of the bargin struck when the children were decided on. (Whilat maintaining / enjoying their own income and social life)

This is, unfortunately, true.

I just did a quick calculation - from the minute he walked out of the house, my ExH parented his own children for 9% of the week. This then dropped to 4% 'because of his shifts'.

He would initiate court orders for contact (for his own delusional reasons) and then refused to honour them. When the court suggested every other weekend and half holidays he simply said 'No'.

And there was nothing anyone could do.

I let the CMS deal with him to at least get some money for DC, and claimed whatever I could in childcare benefits while I got back on my feet. No-one cared how I was managing to work my shifts. No-one cared that I was burning out and pouring a much more significant proportion of my income into child-raising than their own father.

It's a very cruel system.

As the others have said you can't force him to see his kids. Let him take you to court for access and at least then it will be official.