Several years ago I split with exP, father of my two dc. He didn't want to be with me, was quite horrible and had lost interest in me and our relationship, we had a toddler and a baby.
I moved out, got a job and rented a tiny house (all I could afford). Life was hard for a while.
Fast forward several years and dc are now 9 and 6. I've been promoted several times at work so now a relatively high earner, got a mortgage and bought a decent sized house on my own, life is much better.
I have a boyfriend of a couple of years who has met the kids and is good with them. He won't be moving in and we won't be getting married (I'd never take that financial risk) however he stays at mine 2/3 nights a week and one of those could be when dc are home.
ExP (kids dad) objects to me having bf stay over and says I should wait until they are 18, that they shouldn't be aware that I have a partner who sleeps in my bed.
Aibu to have bf 'around' with kids and staying over one night per week? For information, when he's around he's generally quite helpful, fair share of cooking etc.