To be annoyed with friend

[user828382]

I have been trying to arrange a night out for a few months now with friends there will be about 10 of us in total.
One friend probably my closest out of the 10 is making it hard work, worrying about how busy places will be, the COVID risk. Every time I suggest something she doesn’t seem interested.
She never use to be like this I’m starting to think this is the beginning of the end of our friendship she just seems so distanced.
Aibu to just arrange the night out without her?

Just arrange and if she comes she comes. Stop over thinking it

Do you ever ask her how she is etc? If she insists that she is fine, then arrange without her.

I'd arrange the night out you want, then invite everyone and whoever comes comes.

More generally though I find it odd that you'd permanently ditch a friend because she's got a different comfort level with Covid to you. Surely if she's a good friend you can do night out with other people and see her somewhere else?

Perhaps she is worried about it. Ever ask her if she’s ok?

Perhaps it’s now about you. Perhaps she’s been struggling.

“Not” about you

YABU. I was quite careful about covid last year as was pregnant and not fully vaccinated until third trimester and was really struggling with germ ocd as a result. I cancelled social plans with a friend and she took it personal and I think she now thinks the same as you are and wants to end the friendship. It was really very hurtful to me and still is.
If she was a friend you valued you would show support and understanding in what has been a tremendously difficult 2 years for some people to navigate and anxiety won't disappear overnight.