Some people do have it all though don’t they?
This is a phrase to bridle at, particularly as almost 100% of the time it's only used in the context of women. The expectation of having a career and a family is basic. It really isn't asking too much, even though women are frequently lambasted as 'selfish' or even ballbreaking shrews for entertaining that expectation. We are not asking for anything that men haven't always taken completely for granted.
Sometimes problems occur because people encourage learned helplessness in their partners, shrug wryly that they don't know how to operate a washing machine, and fall into the trap of taking on all the domestic labour themselves. Raising children is a two-person job. My husband and I manage it perfectly well, without outside family help. Housework - laundry and cooking - are shared. We do employ cleaners and gardeners, but not nannies.
IMO, too many women are too keen on justifying their own personal work/home life decisions to strangers, then taking the fact that others have made different decisions as a personal affront. Before this is seen as misogyny - who, after all, sees men behaving like this? - it's because for men this has simply never been a consideration. That's what makes my teeth grind, not the fact that some women want to stay at home whilst others work.
This is about what you want, OP. If you want a career, the onus is on you to make that happen. What others choose to do is irrelevant.
Good luck whatever you decide.