Why is online dating frowned upon

[Penguinsaregreat]

Hi
Had a conversation with friends and a friend of a friend is single and looking for a relationship.
The conversation turned to how I met dh. We met on line and are very happy.
She asked how we met and I told her on line. She then asked me what specific site so I told her. The conversation got to how she had been warned not to go on that site and she had been using more 'upmarket sites,' her words. My friends all nodded in agreement, they are all single.
Now I'm not interested how any one met their oh to be honest, who cares if you met at university, at work, out walking your dog or on a dating website.
It did feel like she was implying the website is full of awful people and she did say that she hasn't used that one as she wants more than a man just looking for sex.
I didn't say anything. At the time I met dh neither one of us believed we would ever get married. Dh admitted later that he did initially want sex and yes so did I actually. He is the romantic, thoughtful one. He proposed and suggested marriage.
I just got the feeling that she was hoping I'd said Oh we met through the running club/at work etc.
I know this woman is going through a hard time so I ended up saying that I was lucky blah blah blah. Actually I don't believe that. I did a lot of research into relationships and overhauled my outlook, set boundaries and without boring everyone studied the 3 levels of relationship requirements and had in my mind what my essential (Sorry can't remember the 3 types) needs were.
Anyhow my question is this:
Why is there so much negative feeling towards online dating. Why do people look down on those who meet on line?
I know, many ,many couples who have met online and are still together and appear to be blissfully happy.
You can meet arseholes everywhere trust me.

I met my DH online.

As long as your bullshit meter is well adjusted you can usually spot the arseholes!

And yes you can meet awful men anywhere.

I voted YABU because I think you inferred a lot of judgment into what your friend said but what she said on the surface isn't bad or controversial. I wasn’t there for the tone obviously.

I think lots of people would agree that certain sites have certain reputations but most people also understand that you can meet great and awful people on any site.

Also I think lots of people dream of a certain type of real-life romantic encounter whilst also realising that they’re less common nowadays. So I don’t actually think people look down on relationships from dating websites.

I think "online dating" brings to mind people who actively paid to sign up to an early internet forum during the days of dial up.

Nowadays everyone is connected online and so It's a lot more natural to meet through the internet.

The only people who seem interested to know how people met are those of the generation who always married the slightly older boy who loved a couple of streets away.

I'd definitely be surprised to find people being judgemental about online dating these days. DP and I met on Tinder, as did my sister and her partner, and probably about half of my friends who are in relationships. The others met at uni.

Yes she is an older woman, not sure exactly how old but over 55. I was vague in my post but I don't know her. Just felt a bit strange to ask someone you don't know where exactly they met. Like asking someone them telling you "Oh we met at our children's rugby club," then asking specifically which one, then saying you had heard there are some strange parents at that rugby club, if that makes sense.
I agree that in 2022 it's very common to meet on line rather than in the flesh.