To expect the hospital I had a d&c at not to send me a text reminder for my 12 week scan

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Honestly how hard can it be? I've been doing pretty well, but that text has really winded me. On a bank holiday weekend too so can't even call them to say anything. Just had to run away upstairs and have a little cry about it.

Most definitely not unreasonable. I'm so sorry you are going through this x

Oh my goodness op im so sorry youve had this, i think if you can, you should flag this with them, it must just be an admin error, something not marked on your file or something, but is obviously a horrible thing to receive no matter how innocent the reason behind it is.

I'm so sorry. The same thing happened to me. It's so insensitive of the hospital. I got my DH to contact them.

Ouch no wonder you are hurt.

Last year, my uncle died of covid in his local hospital. Two weeks later his daughter answered the phone as she was clearing his house and it was the vaccine team asking why he hadn't made an appointment.

When you feel you can that is the kind of administrative error that needs to be reported to PALS. It is such an easy issue to fix there is no excuse.

Oh I'm sorry OP. I agree with reporting to PALS when you feel up to it. It might not be a bad thing that you couldn't get in touch today x

Sorry op that stinks

Aw no, I'm so sorry, that really was insensitive. Their systems should have been updated.

I'm really sorry this has happened to you Soaring x

I had two 12 week scan chase up calls (different miscarriages), one call while I was at work. I sent a formal complaint to the hospital after the second call. That's the last thing anyone needs whilst dealing with pregnancy loss and I didn't want it to happen to other women. Not sure if it made a difference as I went to a different hospital with my next pregnancy (because of their admin), but I hope it did. You'd imagine it would be such an easy admin issue to fix.

Similar thing happened to me when I had a miscarriage. You'd think they'd have figured out a way to stop it.

I’m so sorry OP.

Similar happened to me, was told I’d had a missed miscarriage at 12 week scan after ivf and sent home, had a phone call the next day asking why I hadn’t gone to the consultant appointment

I'm so sorry this has happened to you. It's awful, insensitive and surely not that difficult for them to update their systems.

When I had my two early miscarriages, my community midwife told me she would phone the hospital on my behalf to cancel any upcoming appointments. I was surprised she offered as I assumed they would be automatically cancelled.

You should definitely raise this with PALS, once you're feeling up to it

Oh OP how rude and insensitive. Is there anyone you can complain to? I know it won't undo it but they might stop and think about what they are doing.

Oh god I just remembered this happened to me. Such a basic error.

This has happened to me twice, two different miscarriages. It is so shit. My last pregnancy I didn’t even make a booking in appointment until after I’d felt the baby move and this was a big part of why.

I’m so sorry this has happened to you. The same thing happened to me but with my booking appointment. They were even called to tell them yet I still got a text and then a letter the next day. I mean seriously

I'm sorry this happened to you.

I went for my D&C and they asked me if I could possibly be pregnant.

That’s awful, I’m really sorry OP. I agree you should report it when/if you feel up to it.
Shocking reading this thread how many women it has also happened to

Oh, that's awful. When/if you feel up to it, do let them know -- I don't think you need to complain about it per se, but do let them know that it happened and suggest that they update their systems to avoid this happening to others.

Christ, that's bloody insensitive.

I'm so sorry you're going through this, sending gentle hugs.

I’ve had this after all 3 miscarriages. Reminder for scan, a call to ask why I didn’t attend and all three times I had the midwife team at the hospital calling me and asking why I didn’t turn up for my booking appointment (14 weeks here) - despite me calling and telling them I’d miscarried so didn’t need it.

It’s really shit.

@soaringswifts

Honestly how hard can it be? I've been doing pretty well, but that text has really winded me. On a bank holiday weekend too so can't even call them to say anything. Just had to run away upstairs and have a little cry about it.

I was wanted that this would happen, apparently the texts are slower to be updated.

Same happened to me after my 11 week miscarriage. After D&C I developed infection and had to ring A&E to arrange antibiotics, explained everything ( covid times and difficult to get seen by doc). I was asked if there is any chance I could be pregnant!?? FFS.
So sorry, its awful.

It's so poor really. So sorry op. My friend's baby died at birth and the health visitor showed up to her house on day 5 to check the new baby 🤦

God that's awful, I'm so sorry