To want DS nap time to me my time?

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I get very little time to myself so when DS goes down for his nap I’d really like to have peace and quiet for a bit. Instead I have DH constantly talking to me and telling me this and that needs doing or cleaning around me.

AIBU to just want some peace and (fucking!) quiet!

No you're not. Tell him you use this time as downtime and then move to another room. If he needs to he can write you a list, which I'd chuck in the bin later.

Totally understand this. Maybe pop to bed for a 'lie down' for some time to yourself (read, relax, draw- whatever floats your boat) and meanwhile, your DH can get on with all the jobs!

Why don’t you just speak to him?

I like to have a nap when mine does, sometimes I get a bit fancy and watch the tv or read (gasp). DH knows not to mess with my nap time, unfortunately he’s taken to having a nap too instead of doing the washing up which is an utter shame.

Tell him to stop it and you are going off to do your own thing.

YANBU and if he thinks stuff needs doing then he can do it. Just go up to bed for a nap when DS does.

He's trying to control what you do.

Does he get up early so you can lie in or do you do that?