Please let me vent here before I burn my bridges with his nursery .
They are the nursery section of a very highly regarded private school. They are also utterly utterly lacking in the sort of personal interaction I would expect for this aged child.
I chose the nursery because it was the best of a bad bunch - the others were either out of the question for DS1's school pick up or I had health and safety issues with them.
DS2 is a very sweet little boy who needs to be drawn out of his shell a bit. He went back after summer break and had a scant 'hello X, did you have a nice summer?'. I could see from the outside that after I left they left him alone while they (the staff) grouped together for a chat.
Today I got a 'hello' as they answered the door but he wasn't even greeted. I eventually went up to the head of nursery who again greeted us with 'hello'. I said rather pointedly 'This is X's first morning back' and managed to get a 'did you have a good morning x' out of her.
Luckily there is one lady who is excellent with him (and who I smuggled wine to at Christmas and thanked her for going the extra mile) but without her we'd be really stuffed.
For goodness sake, he's just 4, he's shy, he didn't settle well, he's been away for three weeks for Christmas, it's his first morning back - pull your collective fingers out.