I think my husband and I have a healthy sex life. But it’s always rather difficult for me to accept his online porn use. I am aware that he is not a saint, but I always wonder, if he could somehow minimise his online activities?
When we got married, I was somehow oblivious to his use of porn, until at one time, I coincidentally saw a website. I knew, but didn’t give it much thought, because I found it to be nothing extraordinary if he watches it now and then. But after several years, he started to what I perceive as indulging in that activities. By indulging, I mean, he would leave the bed in the middle of the night for an hour or so to be in another room. He would also spend a few mins in the bathroom in the mornings to take care of himself. At one ugly period of our marriage where we had to be apart for almost half a year because of work, I found out that he actually communicated with several cam girls (from another country) personally. I confronted him about this, he said he was sorry, but he continued doing this again for several more months. I even got to know that he spent a lot of money on one cam girl in particular. He doesn’t know that I knew about this because I was doing my own sleuthing.
Fast forward, I believe he is not communicating personally with these cam girls anymore, but he still indulges in online porn by spending around an hour several times in a week. On top of that, I know that he is being online now and then at this porn site while he is at work (probably when he is sitting at the toilet or not busy working). He checks stuff on this site several times a day (on top of the indulge that I’ve mentioned).
I did tell him that I didn’t like the effects of porn in a marriage, but I didn’t specify it on him.
Am I being unreasonable if I prefer him to limit his porn use? After all; we are still having regular sex?