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To hate my farking inlaws

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pyjamagirl · 09/01/2008 10:25

I posted last week about my inlaws not bothering to ring up and wish dd happy 2nd bday (or send a card or gift)

Anyway for the past three days they haven't left us alone as they want to borrow our wallpaper stripper (which is at my sisters)
I am so angry that when they want something they can remember we exist but when it comes to something as unimportant as a grandaughter we don't even get a phonecall.

I know I'm been so petty and should just give them the bloody stripper but grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

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dmo · 09/01/2008 10:26

for you my inlaws are the same

cazboldy · 09/01/2008 10:28

yep same here.....in fact whenever they ring I always say to dh, "what did they want then?" lol

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pyjamagirl · 09/01/2008 10:28

I can't actually believe I'm letting something so silly churn me up like this .

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moondog · 09/01/2008 10:29

Did theyt genuinly forget?
My sister never remembers anyone's birthday but she is a truly kind person.

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pyjamagirl · 09/01/2008 10:31

No they didn't she mentioned it first day she rang for stripper and she brought it up on boxing day 8 days before her bday.

She did it with my other dd in september too.

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Twinkie1 · 09/01/2008 10:33

Think the time would be right for a tantrum detailing their inapproriate behaviour - but that is just me!

mylittleponey · 09/01/2008 10:33

haven't you lent it to your friend?

dmo · 09/01/2008 10:36

when dh and i got married we had a small do in a reg office and then a meal with family (everybody paid for their own) inlaws invited everyone from ireland (which we didnt want) and then said that we couldnt ask them to pay for their own meal so inlaws decided to pay for the irish lot with much grumberling but would not pay the prices at the place we had chosen so we had to rearrange to a pub

btw inlaws are very well off own proterty all over never had a morgage etc

anyway dh sister has just got engaged (their only daughter) and they have booked the reception at a really posh place and are paying for the irish lot to stay over at the place (cost 14k) and then they are paying for the cars i had a taxi

AngharadGoldenhand · 09/01/2008 10:45

pg - yes, you've lent it to a friend as mlp suggests and they've gone on holiday for 3 weeks!

morethanmum · 09/01/2008 10:47

Can I join the inlaw bashing? EVERY time I see mine they go on about not being invited to our wedding. 2nd time around for both of us, we had a registry do, two witnesses, lunch after. Next day, we hired a hotel, had the reception, the cake, speeches etc, and SIL brought hers in tracksuits for gods sake. Apparently, they should have been invited to the registry office, despite our wishes, and our children didn't come. Wedding was 4 years ago. How do I stop them? Feel so much better now.

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pyjamagirl · 09/01/2008 11:08

I just really dislike mine I grew up with her in my life and she was a horrible person and still is.

What gets me so mad is stupid things like she can't be bothered to acknowledge my dd bday but once we gave her a mother's day card at 3pm mothering sunday and she threw it at my dp's face saying we shouldn't have bothered as the day was over

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Dropdeadfred · 09/01/2008 11:11

Have YOU mentioned/asked her about what happened re: dd's bday?

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pyjamagirl · 09/01/2008 11:14

Yes dp did she said she was still getting sorted after Christmas and were skint (too skint to buy a card apparently ) although they afford a 40 a day habit.

The issue is they more or less ignored all our dc's bdays last year till we ended up having a massive row last septmeber she made a big effort with ds and now it seems it's back to normal again.

I know it's silly but I just feel hurt that she can ignore my dd

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itsahardknocklife · 09/01/2008 11:15

Could you tell them that a friend borrowed it - say she only collected it at DD's birthday party last week and so will probably have it for a while!

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pyjamagirl · 09/01/2008 11:19

Hahahaha good one it'sa , she knows my sister has it but wants us to get it from her maybe will tell her sister lent it to a friend of hers

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Dropdeadfred · 09/01/2008 11:21

I understand you feeling hurt. Its not about money or presents is it? Just a visit or a phonecall on the day ould have been something.

Tell her your sister broke the stripper.

itsahardknocklife · 09/01/2008 11:25

Perhaps your sister returned it at the bday party, where another friend borrorwed it!

itsahardknocklife · 09/01/2008 11:25

Perhaps your sister returned it at the bday party, where another friend borrorwed it!

nametaken · 09/01/2008 11:49

I think we must have the same in-laws.

After 16 years of marriage I now know not to even bother trying to please them.

Don't bother with them, there is no law that says you have to socialise with your husbands family - if they ask what your dcs want for xmas and b'days just smile sweetly and say "oh nothing, they get loads of stuff from my family"

Honestly, except nothing from them and then you don't have to feel grateful towards them and its a lovely feeling.

and just let them keep on ringing for the stripper. Perhaps they could buy their own one if there's any change after the 14K wedding

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pyjamagirl · 09/01/2008 11:52

Yopu are right nametaken you know the old saying

"living well is the best revenge"

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