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Do you always tip in restaurants and what percentage?

185 replies

MightyMoMo · 15/04/2022 16:58

If I've received good customer service, I'm more than happy to tip and tend to give around 10%. If the service has been poor or average (average being they take your order and give you your food but nothing above and beyond in terms of their interactions etc), then I don't tip. I've noticed the unhappy reaction I get when I don't tip but surely their level of service should warrant a tip? And are they not paid a wage aside from tips? Or is it me, and actually tipping in the UK is now the norm and highly frowned upon if you don't?

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irregularegular · 15/04/2022 17:00

Yes if there is table service. It would have to be unusually bad for me not to. Minimum 10% (I round up, especially if amounts are small). Yes I think it is the norm. Everyone I go out with almost always tips. Many restaurants include service now which I prefer (and then I don't tip).

SkyDragon · 15/04/2022 17:10

I don't tip. And if they've added a discretionary 12.5%, which they often do these days, I have no problem asking them politely to remove it. I wasn't planning on collecting it from the kitchen myself and I think the practice is outdated now people are paid a living wage. Also I resent it being added automatically. 12.5% is a lot extra if you've bought dinner and wine for 4 or 6 people so it's a nope from me!

VyeBrator · 15/04/2022 17:13

I don't do percentages, I just leave whatever money I/we decide at the time if the service has been good.

I've never noticed any kind of reaction if I haven't tipped.

SamMil · 15/04/2022 17:19

I tend to give 10% unless the service is bad, or don't have any change. I've never noticed a bad reaction if we havent left a tip.

fairylightsandwaxmelts · 15/04/2022 17:20

I don't tip.

Rockbird · 15/04/2022 17:20

I generally tip £1 per person. I don't eat in expensive places so any more than that and the tip costs more than the meal!

Watapalava · 15/04/2022 17:22

Always 10%

Floralnomad · 15/04/2022 17:26

I tip a minimum of 10% unless the service has been absolutely shocking .

drpet49 · 15/04/2022 17:30

* I don't tip. And if they've added a discretionary 12.5%, which they often do these days, I have no problem asking them politely to remove it. I wasn't planning on collecting it from the kitchen myself and I think the practice is outdated now people are paid a living wage. Also I resent it being added automatically. 12.5% is a lot extra if you've bought dinner and wine for 4 or 6 people so it's a nope from me!*

^This. Tipping is an outdated practice

MrsLargeEmbodied · 15/04/2022 17:31

10%
or nothing if i dont have change

Germolenequeen · 15/04/2022 17:32

10% usually or 15% if very good service - if bad I leave nothing 🤷‍♀️

Svara · 15/04/2022 17:33

I don't tip. I assume that all costs are included in the price of the food. I am happy with minimal table service such as ordering at the bar, or a cafe with a buzzer to collect my food. Since there's no option to opt out of the service component I don't expect to pay for it separately though.

MrsTerryPratchett · 15/04/2022 17:35

At least 10% unless it's terrible service. Up to 15% or in amazing cases (when DD was small and messy and they insisted on cleaning up when we offered) 20%. But thats very rare.

Obviously this is in table service places.

DH is Canadian and tries to tip at the bar in pubs Hmm

MissFranKubelik · 15/04/2022 17:39

Minimum 10% - usually rounded up to nearest £5. I ask to make sure digital payment goes to the staff or management. If management I’ll do it in cash.

I’ve waited at tables. It’s bloody hard work and the staff deserve it. Very surprised at the number of people who don’t abide by this social norm. Why do people think it’s outdated?

Wheresmywoolyjumpers · 15/04/2022 17:42

I tip always unless it is really bad. But the amount goes up the better the service has been. I also leave money for hotel cleaners on the pillow - no one ever tips them and it is a crummy low paid job even at nice hotels.

StScholastica · 15/04/2022 17:42

Usually around 10%.
Where are you eating so cheaply Rockbird? Even Gregg's is more than that.

Svara · 15/04/2022 17:43

I’ve waited at tables. It’s bloody hard work and the staff deserve it. Very surprised at the number of people who don’t abide by this social norm. Why do people think it’s outdated?
The minimum wage is the same across industries. I work bloody hard for £10 an hour, carers work bloody hard, I'd say most other people on minimum wage or just above do too.

GeodesicDome · 15/04/2022 17:45

I never tip anyone. Horrible practice.

MissFranKubelik · 15/04/2022 17:47

The minimum wage is the same across industries. I work bloody hard for £10 an hour, carers work bloody hard, I'd say most other people on minimum wage or just above do too.

Nobody disagrees with you. We’re not talking about carers - we’re taking about waiting staff.

Momicrone · 15/04/2022 17:48

Not for the recipient

LittleRedRidingHood187 · 15/04/2022 17:52

Very rare for us to tip, would if they were exceptional. I don't understand the fascination with tipping in restaurants. The servers get paid for doing the job

I don't tip when I go to the supermarket

dumdumduuuummmmm · 15/04/2022 17:53

@MissFranKubelik

The minimum wage is the same across industries. I work bloody hard for £10 an hour, carers work bloody hard, I'd say most other people on minimum wage or just above do too.

Nobody disagrees with you. We’re not talking about carers - we’re taking about waiting staff.

I'm pretty sure they meant that it's odd to tip waiting staff when they are getting paid the same money as other minimum wage staff. In countries like the US the servers get paid a paltry amount because the norm is that they earn their pay through tipping. We have the minimum wage requirement
CustardGoodJamGoodMeatGood · 15/04/2022 17:56

We tip if we're happy with the service. I don't go off a percentage though, I usually just round up to the nearest 5 or 0

PoptartPoptart · 15/04/2022 17:56

I’m glad I came across this thread as I was going to start a very similar one.
I’ve recently noticed that more and more restaurants are adding the 12.5% service charge as standard practice. They used to only do this for parties of 6 or more.
It makes me irrationally angry.
A tip is supposed to be in recognition of good service. Adding it to the bill as standard practice is not a tip - it’s like it’s expected.
They know it makes some people feel embarrassed asking for it to be taken off so people just pay it.
I always ask for it to be taken off as a matter of principle and then leave what I think is deserved. If I receive good service then I will be generous. If not, then I won’t.
Seriously, where is the incentive for providing a good service of the tip is guaranteed?
And for what it’s worth, I have worked many minimum wage jobs and never received a tip!

pradavilla · 15/04/2022 17:57

Yes usually around 10% maybe more or less just rounding it up roughly to nearest pound. I foolishly just tip regardless 🙈 most of time service is very gd. I round down from 10% if it maybe hasn't been up to scratch.

I can only remember one time not leaving a tip as they were so slow, not attentive and we ended up paying at the bar! We had cinema booked and it took 2hrs to get served 2courses and we had to throw the food down our throats.