Sick of my neighbour

[CallMeRachel]

AIBU to feel so infuriated by a birds nest and eggs being knocked out of my hedge by my inconsiderate selfish and mean neighbours kids? (eggs are broken).

They are the noisiest most inconsiderate selfish mean people we have ever known. We moved in 4 years ago and have been asked loads of favours for them which we (I have done). Never thinks to reciprocate. Take take take.

Noise starts with their dog being let out crazed barking about 6.30am-7am every day even on weekends there’s no long lies. In summer the kids are all unleashed into the garden at that time as well.

The kids kick the ball against our shared fence constantly (hence the bird nest being disturbed) and the ball ends up in our garden numerous times a day.

I’ve nothing against kids playing but the parents should be trying to make sure they’re not causing a nuisance surely?

There’s so much more to this but can’t go into it all as it could be identifying. We had been what I thought was friends but then I realised it was entirely one way and their true colours have been revealed.

I think the nest is the straw that broke the camels back so to speak. I need chocolate, and wine

Do we say something?? Or not?

They sound awful and don't sound the type, unfortunately, to care about a bird or its nest .

I would puncture the ball and hand it back saying 'oops sorry, it landed in something prickly'. Don't have to tell them the prickly something is a carving knife.

All birds, their nests and eggs are protected by law and they have potentially committed an offence so it might be worth reporting to the police.

Take some photos of the eggs etc for evidence.

We have some neighbours who, during lockdown, had their kids in the garden literally all day very often. One adult usually out there keeping the noise levels and chaos at pitch level all fuckung day.

Eventually we did pluck up the courage to ask them to moderate things a bit. Not keep them in all day, just not have them shouting for hours on end.

They took it on board and have been totally great ever since and we have a very cordial relationship. I suggest you definitely say something but keep it quite specific such as letting the dog out later or on a lead if it’s very early. Stop children kicking against the fence.

Be clear you don’t want to spoil their fun but it is really upsetting you.

If you don’t say anything how will they know?

Its a criminal offence to disturb birds eggs and I would telephone RNSB in your local area.
As for the disturbance of a morning with the barking dog can you make a recording of the dog and keep a note of the dates send it or take it to Noise Control Officer at your local Council and see if they can help.
I don't know what you can do about the children I would be watering my garden and just happen to water over the fence and soak them (accidently).

THIS

I would puncture the ball and hand it back saying 'oops sorry, it landed in something prickly'. Don't have to tell them the prickly something is a carving knife.

Revenge served cold and well brewed...

Oooh some fun ideas there thankyou!!

I was actually worried I was going to get roasted for being moany about this.

The nest being destroyed has really upset me, more than I’d have expected. It wouldn’t have been deliberate as we didn’t even know we had a nest there but still very thoughtless way to allow your kids to behave.

We love the dog, it’s not the dogs fault. It’s unbelievably dense and selfish to allow it to bark constantly we have been speechless actually at their lack of consideration for anyone else.

Hubby away out to get some goodies. I need cheering up today

Of course speak to them about it.

What is the matter with some of the posters?! Deflate their ball, really? Report to the council? They are children - just tell their parents what they are doing/ask them to stop. Most reasonable people would just talk to their children and police them more and you won’t need to escalate.

If you do horrible things like deliberate damage their property then 1) you have lost all moral highground and 2) they will just buy another ball so it’s pointless anyway

How old are the children? If they are older then one of the parents should take dog out on a leash to stop it from barking. If they are little I understand that they can’t be left and there’s not loads they can do as the dog needs to wee or whatever at that time (just call it in after a few minutes).

The children shouldn’t be going out that early though!

Goodness som of these responses. It’s a criminal activity to deliberately tamper with a birds nest during breeding season, it is not a criminal offence to accidentally knock one over.

I’m genuinely astonished someone actually wrote call the Police. Adm say what, ? the kids next door were playing and accidentally knocked over a birds Next, can you come and arrest them please?

some folks seem to think the police are just hanging around waiting to do any old shit folks fancy.

You are not being unreasonable but it’s probably not worth complaining to them. I think you should decline to do favours for them, they’ll stop asking eventually, and just live as well as you can, praying that they love.