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Easter Egg strop

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TwinkleTwinkleSeren · 14/04/2022 09:57

Ridiculous and petty argument this morning 🙄DH and I normally get each other an Easter egg so this year he asked if I wanted one, there seemed to be barely anything left in Tesco, just the big expensive ones. I told him not to bother, that I really fancied some pick and mix sweets instead.I told him where the pick and mix was and that I was really craving some lol. I said that I didn’t like the chocolate in the fancy eggs and to buy some sweets. He comes back saying he’s bought a big fancy egg for me. He’s now not speaking to me and calling me ungrateful as I told him it was strange he should go ahead and get something that I told him I really didn’t like or want. First world problems I know but I didn’t want him to waste money that we don’t have on something I don’t like.

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DrBrennerFan · 14/04/2022 12:47

Mine does this when I say no I mean we can’t afford it if in shop he argues about it and then moans when I keep saying no. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Andylion · 14/04/2022 12:51

My guess is that he genuinely thought you were only asking for pick'n'mix to make things easier for him, rather than because you actually preferred it, and that he meant well.

I agree. Also, if you usually have an Easter egg, it doesn’t make sense that you don’t like the chocolate in them.

707smile · 14/04/2022 13:14

@10HailMarys

I couldn't bring myself to be annoyed by this, to be honest. My guess is that he genuinely thought you were only asking for pick'n'mix to make things easier for him, rather than because you actually preferred it, and that he meant well.

This

Aprilx · 14/04/2022 13:16

It is amazing that some people will look for sinister hidden meanings in anything, even a man buying an Easter egg for his wife.

OP, your husband knows you like Easter eggs and usually have one. He probably thought you were (at best) trying to make his life easy by suggesting pick and mix or (at worst) acting like a martyr over it. Either way buying somebody an Easter egg is a nice thing to do and there is no reason to have an argument about it.

Mooster62 · 14/04/2022 13:22

Why not give him the fancy egg as that is obviously the one he wanted and buy yourself some pick and mix.

TeaKlaxon · 14/04/2022 13:48

Definite first world problems.

If I expressed a preference for a gift and my DP misinterpreted what I said as me trying to make their life easier/cheaper, and then decided to treat me to what they thought I would actually want, I would be grateful for the thought. I would accept it with grace and thank them.

If it genuinely wasn't what I wanted, then I'd suck it up because it's a gift.

Suzi888 · 14/04/2022 13:56

@JellyBunny

Maybe he misunderstood and thought you meant you'll have pick n mix do as not to spend loads on an egg, not that you'd prefer that. Some people like to buy an egg for Easter. You can buy pick n mix any time.

He bought you an egg though so does it really matter.

^ This You seem very ungrateful to be honest.

MarinoRoyale · 14/04/2022 14:15

@TwinkleTwinkleSeren

He’s now text saying how upset he is and he just wants to do nice things for me.

My reply would be “I appreciate the sentiment but the “nice” thing to do would be to listen to what I want rather than ignore my preferences because you think you know what I want better than I do”

Cocomarine · 14/04/2022 15:00

@Suzi888 why should she be grateful for an egg she doesn’t want, doesn’t like, have an alternative for, and told him not to get her? That’s BULLSHIT!

I’m allergic to peanuts. Should I be “grateful” if my husband buys me a Snickers?

Utter tripe!

JellyBunny · 14/04/2022 15:02

Thanks for the but your posts just came off a bit angry!

I did say if he generally ignores OP then that's a different issue but I think this is an overreaction to getting an expensive egg rather than pick n mix

Spottybutterfly · 14/04/2022 15:43

I've drummed in to my husband no Lint chocolate. I love chocolate bit Lint is just too sweet and sickly. I mention it every time we go past Lint reindeer or bunnies. I would be so disappointed if he wasted money on one.

However he is also under strict orders to not buy Kinderton chocolate too. No chocolate is better than Kinderton.

He bought me Cadbury's this year (we didn't have eggs last year as we were dieting) and I don't know what they've done to the chocolate but it just doesn't taste the same.

JellyBunny · 14/04/2022 17:14

Last post was to @Nnique

Op how are you feeling about it now?

My Easter annoyance with DH is that he opened the egg I bought for my sister and ate one of the chocolate bars out of it

Apparently he thought it was "open" but it clearly wasn't. I explained the plastic free packaging...

CounsellorTroi · 14/04/2022 17:17

@10HailMarys

This is what I think too.

Fairyliz · 14/04/2022 17:27

I don’t know I grew up in a household where people didn’t actually say what they want.
So I would ask my mum what she wanted for her birthday and she would say ‘oh don’t bother about me I don’t want anything’.
But if you actually took her word for it and didn’t make a big fuss and buy a decent present there would be hell to play.
I think your husband though you did want an egg, but they were a bit expensive out of your normal price range. So you asked for pick and mix as second best. He thought he would treat you with one of the expensive eggs and is now annoyed that you don’t appreciate it.

JamieFraserskiltspeaksout · 14/04/2022 17:37

It was easier for him to pick up the egg than get you a pick n mix. Lazy. YANBU op.

Dustyroad63 · 14/04/2022 17:48

I wouldn’t make a thing out of it. He probably thought you were saying the eggs were too expensive so you said a smaller amount ie the sweets.
He must have thought I’ll get her the egg she’s worth it. That’s what I’d think as it’s the kind of thing my DH would do.

ilovepuppies2019 · 14/04/2022 17:51

@Fairyliz

I don’t know I grew up in a household where people didn’t actually say what they want. So I would ask my mum what she wanted for her birthday and she would say ‘oh don’t bother about me I don’t want anything’. But if you actually took her word for it and didn’t make a big fuss and buy a decent present there would be hell to play. I think your husband though you did want an egg, but they were a bit expensive out of your normal price range. So you asked for pick and mix as second best. He thought he would treat you with one of the expensive eggs and is now annoyed that you don’t appreciate it.

Exactly this! A lot of posts are annoyed that the DH didn't take OP at her word but has she had an ester egg every year? If so then it sounds more like money was the main consideration (perfectly reasonable) and that the OP really didn't want it. The DH may have thought he would do what he genuinely thought the OP actually wanted and wanted to something nice. My Mum has often said no to things that she actually would like because we couldn't have afforded it. I doubt that that is uncommon. I have a lot of trouble as an adult working out when she is saying no because it's too expensive but she really would want it and when she doesn't want it. Sometimes I probably get it wrong but I'm ways trying to get her what she really does want now that I can afford it. The DH may be doing the same. If so, cut him slack, he's trying. People don't always say what they mean.

DisforDarkChocolate · 14/04/2022 17:53

@gingerscot

Surely the nicest thing he could do for you is listen to you?

Perfect response.

I8toys · 14/04/2022 17:54

I couldn't get excited about something so minor. If I want something I buy it myself and don't rely on someone else to try and understand what I want at that particular time. Get yourself some pick and mix and share your egg. Just say to him what you've said here. Not worth arguing about.

Itsbackagain · 14/04/2022 17:55

I suppose he's thinking all the years he's bought you a big fancy egg and you've never actually liked them.........?

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