Potty training but need to get out the house

[Bakingwithmyboys]

Potty training my extremely stubborn 3.5 yr old this week. PIL took DS1 for a sleepover and kept him most of the days either side. We made some good progress, had such a stubborn fight the second morning but by the end of the second day he would use the toilet without tears and fussing.

Today I added in a lot extra. Wearing trousers (he's pretty much been naked from the waist down the first 2 days) and we went to the park in the morning.

This afternoon he had his first poo experience. Safe to say it did not go well. He then seemed to take a step back. Not wanting to wee on the toilet, big crying fuss, claiming his willy hurts because he holds it in too much. Got him to do a wee during cooking dinner. Then he claimed a sore side. Properly crying, wouldn't be comforted. He didn't eat any dinner. Nearly fell asleep at the table. Managed to give him a bath so he wasn't going to bed too early. Did another wee on the toilet under duress.

I want to go for a walk tomorrow. It's been stressful (DH didn't get in until after bedtime tonight so was dealing with all this myself) and I just cannot contemplate another day in the house. I had originally planned to do a park meet with a friend from school for DS1.

I asked if we could change the park meet to a walk. Smaller amount of time out and figured I'd probably do that anyway even if we cancelled on friend. That was all fine.

DH now tells me I should stay at home tomorrow to reset. I should cancel friend and just lay low.

I'm now not sure what to do. I don't think I could have a day at home again but I'm not sure if it's going to make everything worse going for a walk with high potential for accidents. We do have travel potty which I will take and spare clothes of course. Be out maybe an hour and a half.

AIBU to go for the walk?

My DC1 would wet his pants constantly while we were out and I carried about 10 spares of everything.
If I were you I’d stop and try again I’m a couple weeks

You could say - this is a going out time nappy. It goes on just before you leave the house and off when you get in.

Don't give up. I think a little trip out is a good idea.

When you are potty training it has to be 100% your focus. The issues people have are almost always due to the parents not giving it priority. Stay home.
As you’ve left it rather late it will need persistence! Don’t fuck it up now for a walk, that’s crazy!

I agree that you have to be persistent now but I would go for a walk and bring spare clothes. When we were out I asked her regularly if she needed to go and found an appropriate place for her to pee. There were some accidents at first but steadily less and less. My daughter was younger so it might be a bit different, I understand it can be more difficult when they are older and have more habits. Good luck and stick with it!

Go for a walk, take spare clothes and an emergency/last resort nappy just in case you need it. You need to get out for a bit and if you can't take him out in pants then what's the point of potty training? The fresh air will give you both a break.

Take the poor lad out! Don't make toilet training a bigger deal than it obviously is for him, plus out of routine will throw him off too.
Carry on with life, offer plenty of opportunities to go, take a bottle with you incase (easier than potties and a plus of having a boy!) Make it a game.
Or leave it for a few weeks and try again.

A trip out is a good idea. If he needs a wee, just take him to a bush / behind a tree. Happens all the time at our local parks.

The hardest bit is staying calm and not making a big deal out of it, so hard I know. If he wets himself, just say oops never mind and pop on clean clothes (take lots!) if he needs a poo, go to a cafe if you can but carry a potty or plastic bag with lots of loo roll in it just in case (or a potette if you’re feeling posh).

Give a reward everytime he does a wee in the toilet/potty.

He’ll get the hang of it eventually.