To not want a baby shower

[Lilybow]

A couple of my lovely friends have organised a baby shower for me. Nothing has been paid for yet, they've set dates and made plans but nothing booked, they have invited all my friends.

It's very sweet of them to do and I honestly do appreciate it but at the same time I really feel apprehensive about it. I don't like being centre of attention, I feel uncomfortable with it for some reason and i don't enjoy baby showers in general so wouldn't want one myself.

I don't want to do it but also feel very guilty and ungrateful if I say I don't want to go ahead with it...should I say something or just suck it up.

Just tell them what you've told us. No need to do it if you don't want to. Your baby, your call!

I didn't have one and certainly didn't regret it.

I was exactly the same.
My mum organised it and was very excited about it. I spoke to her and asked if instead of going somewhere, if we could do it in someone’s house and make it low-key- no games just an nice relaxing afternoon.
It really wasn’t something I wanted but it was actually a lovely afternoon with my closest friends and family. We didn’t dress up, we had afternoon tea and just talked about everything.
I’d be honest with your friends and explain that you’re grateful for everything but you don’t feel comfortable and would rather either leave it or do something quieter.
I’d talk to them soon before they start paying for things!

As kind as it was of them, they shouldn't have done it without asking you first. I think if I were you I would ask them to reframe it as a lunch out and no presents or games etc.

I can't stand baby showers personally, but I think you need to handle this one sensitively since they've already planned it.

They must have asked you to know that you're free right? Did you feel pressured at the time? Any friend would understand if you want to cancel. Many friends might even be glad. I really don't like or get showers but I go along with it if the mum to be wants one. If they don't even want it it's a pretty poor show.

Just say thank you, it's really kind, but you are having second thoughts and don't want to put people out.