Mum undermining me

[Purplecuppa]

Yesterday me and DD(almost 2) met my mum, her sister, my cousin and my cousins DD (2) for lunch. My cousin was asking me how my DD was sleeping now as she barely slept at all for the first year (I assume my mum told her this as I didn't) anyway I said "she sleeps really well now thankfully goes down at 7pm and usually wakes at 7am"... then my mum chirps up "well that's a fib she comes into your bed every night doesn't she you need to put a stop to that".... yes my daughter goes down in her own bed but wakes at 5am every morning I bring her into our bed at that time and she goes straight back asleep for another 2 hours. I didn't mention it but didn't feel it needed mentioning. AIBU to think my DM was being really rude undermining me in front of other family?
I have no plan on stopping my DD from coming in for snuggles in the early morning, she loves it, we love it and we both get more sleep. They are only small for such a short time.
I told my mum that I didn't appreciate her commenting negatively on my parenting in front of other people and she said I was being "too sensitive" and do need to "sort the cosleeping out"

I agree with others, I wouldn't describe that as sleeping 7 to 7. Doesn't really matter though, not sure why she felt the need to point it out

She doesn't sleep uninterrupted and it can make other parents feel that they are failing when you lie. You are all related to your Mum, so allowing the lie on loyalty would be difficult. It's fine what you are doing and something that a lot of parents do. We should be honest about what we do to get sleep.

I’m assuming your mum is close to her sister, hence feeling like she could say that. It’s fair enough if you feel undermined. She should respect that.

I don’t understand why you felt the need to lie about your daughter’s sleep though. She wakes up at 5, then sleeps again.

I co-slept with mine so bringing a child into adults’ bed doesn’t bother me.

@Flickflak @Smileyaxolotl1 if someone asks me how did you sleep last night I'd say I went to bed at 10 and woke at 7 am I wouldn't mention the times I stirred to cuddle my partner or when I got up to pee..... if that's "lying" then fair enough but I consider a child who sleeps 7pm - 7am with just a 5 minute wake up to be unbroken sleep. I have had broken sleep and this is not it.

I think you're being pedantic as was my mother.

@Ponoka7 I never said she slept uninterrupted I said she goes down at 7pm and wakes for the day at 7am which is true. I didn't go into detail about the 5 minutes she wakes at 5am because its not relevant.