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To be so fucked off with GP

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AtALoss22 · 11/04/2022 13:11

I'm feeling so stressed with this situation.

Basically my 1 year old baby has sounded wheezy and chesty now for well over 6 months.

I've taken him to the doctor so many times and each time I'm dismissed. I even took him to the hospital once as I was desperate and really worried but felt I was being fobbed off by the GP. The doctor at the hospital confirmed he could hear the crackling in his chest and gave us antibiotics for a chest infection. They haven't helped at all.

I'm waiting for the doctor again to give us yet another appointment and DH is taking time out of work to come with me. You would hope in this day and age it wouldn't make a difference but I'm hoping having a man there will help (I was accused of being an anxious first time mother).

Everyone has commented about it. Nursery, family, friends, everyone. Nursery have again said to me today that he sounded really bad all morning.

I'm at such a loss I could cry. He's not even particularly unwell in himself although he does have periods of being off food and high temp but there is something just not right and no one will listen Sad

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CoalCraft · 11/04/2022 14:02

It's pretty normal for them to be constantly chesty for a year or so after starting nursery due to the constant onslaught of respiratory bugs - my DD has had a cough and/or runny nose for about nine months now with only the odd week here or there of seeming completely well.

Nevertheless, if even nursery are commenting on it it must be quite pronounced. I would be asking about asthma. Have you only seen the one GP?

Justhere345 · 11/04/2022 14:07

Hi have you considered an issue with dairy? That can sometimes cause a wheeze and chest issues. It can create alot of mucus

MotherOfDragon20 · 11/04/2022 14:35

On average a pre Schooler will have 12-15 viruses every year especially if they are at nursery and especially this year. If he is well in himself he probably is just getting one virus after another which is why antibiotics haven’t done anything. My 17 month old has coughed every night and had a constant runny nose since she was 10 months old and started nursery it’s frustrating but don’t know that there’s much that can be done about it.

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AtALoss22 · 11/04/2022 14:41

I wish I could upload voice recordings but the wheeze is so pronounced. It sounds like an asthma wheeze or what I get when my allergies really kick off (I have a dust allergy that causes very tight chest and wheezing). If he walks across the room he'll be wheezing by the time he gets to the other side. When he went to hospital they agreed there was respiratory recession when he was breathing.

I do understand they get one bug after another and he's had other things on top of this too, but this is just so pronounced and hasn't changed at all.

I'm so worried something will be missed because all they do is look at him and say 'oh he's fine, if he was ill he'd be quiet and subdued' and that's it.

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AtALoss22 · 11/04/2022 14:43

I'd genuinely accept it too if it was nothing IF I felt like they were actually checking him over properly but they haven't. They seem to think because he's not deathly ill when I take him he's fine.

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BlackeyedSusan · 11/04/2022 14:44

Ask if the Gp has read the report from the hospital.

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AtALoss22 · 11/04/2022 14:47

@Justhere345

Hi have you considered an issue with dairy? That can sometimes cause a wheeze and chest issues. It can create alot of mucus
I hadn't heard of this and no one's mentioned anything, thank you I'll look into it.
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Orangesarenottheonlyfruit · 11/04/2022 14:47

Keep your nerve and keep pushing for a referral op.
I have two friends who were accused of hysteria as they "knew" something was wrong with their child . Both were ignored repeatedly. Both were eventually proved right.
Kerp on until you've seen a specialist.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 11/04/2022 14:50

Have you actually tried antihistamine to see him that helps?

Keep pushing.

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AtALoss22 · 11/04/2022 14:51

@Orangesarenottheonlyfruit

Keep your nerve and keep pushing for a referral op. I have two friends who were accused of hysteria as they "knew" something was wrong with their child . Both were ignored repeatedly. Both were eventually proved right. Kerp on until you've seen a specialist.
Thank you. I won't give up, not until I feel satisfied that someone has actually properly checked him but it's just so deflating. I feel so bad for him.

Like I say, if I saw someone a specialist or whatever and it did turn out to be nothing then I will happily accept that. But not when I feel like they aren't even checking if that makes sense?

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AtALoss22 · 11/04/2022 14:52

@MrsPelligrinoPetrichor

Have you actually tried antihistamine to see him that helps?

Keep pushing.

No because they are not for children under two apparently Sad
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MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 11/04/2022 14:53

Piriton is ok for under 2's.

oohmamama · 11/04/2022 14:58

Ask for an appointment with the asthma
Nurse at your GP surgery.

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AtALoss22 · 11/04/2022 14:59

@MrsPelligrinoPetrichor

Piriton is ok for under 2's.
You're right it seems the syrup can be used for over 1s thank you!

I'll ask about the asthma nurse too, I hadn't realised that was a thing!

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LuluF91 · 11/04/2022 15:12

Raise concerns with your health visitor is another avenue you can go down. I hadn't purposefully done this but the health visitor herself was very concerned and got him seen after me trying multiple times. I don't think you will get anywhere with an asthma nurse as they don't diagnose this early on but my DS was prescribed an inhaler which helps relieve his wheeze.

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AtALoss22 · 11/04/2022 15:14

@LuluF91

Raise concerns with your health visitor is another avenue you can go down. I hadn't purposefully done this but the health visitor herself was very concerned and got him seen after me trying multiple times. I don't think you will get anywhere with an asthma nurse as they don't diagnose this early on but my DS was prescribed an inhaler which helps relieve his wheeze.
She's impossible to get hold of unfortunately. Their 'support' has been pretty much non existent through sadly. Probably partly because he's a pandemic baby but still!
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Tigerteafor3 · 11/04/2022 15:15

They can't diagnose asthma that young but it should certainly be raised.

DropYourSword · 11/04/2022 15:18

It's good to get a video recording of what you're concerned about too if you can. Because kids have a bloody irritating habit of being absolutely fine for the 10 minutes they're seen by a GP!

Blossomandbee · 11/04/2022 15:22

Do you have an asthma nurse at your surgery? If so get them to see him. Trust your gut if you don't think he's right

Snaketime · 11/04/2022 15:27

When you get the appointment go in tell them that you took him to the hospital and they said xyz and gave him antibiotics, that the nursery comment about how wheezy he is all the time and you are starting to worry it could be the start of asthma. Say I know you think I am an over anxious first time mother but if nursery are noticing and the hospital agree then something else is going on now are you going to help me or not? If not put in a complaint and take you DS elsewhere for answers.

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AtALoss22 · 11/04/2022 15:32

@DropYourSword

It's good to get a video recording of what you're concerned about too if you can. Because kids have a bloody irritating habit of being absolutely fine for the 10 minutes they're seen by a GP!
Yes, I am armed with voice recordings now!
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Froggyinthemiddle · 11/04/2022 15:36

Have you asked for a paediatrics referral? It would be worth setting out your concerns and asking if he can see a specialist. Perhaps your GP doesn’t realise you’re concerned he might have an underlying problem?

oohmamama · 11/04/2022 19:18

An asthma nurse won’t diagnose asthma as so
Many kids grow out of their chronic wheeze. But they will be able to say if they feel an inhaler might help. Ours was infinitely more helpful than even paediatrics.

cptartapp · 11/04/2022 19:25

@Blossomandbee

Do you have an asthma nurse at your surgery? If so get them to see him. Trust your gut if you don't think he's right
Don't do this. I'm a practice nurse who sees asthma patients but this would be completely inappropriate to see me. It's a baby with no diagnosis. Not sure exactly what you would want me to do? I can't refer, I can't diagnose and I can't prescribe. It's the GP and/or a paed referral you need, not a routine review with 'the asthma nurse'.
Wnkingawalrus · 11/04/2022 19:29

@Froggyinthemiddle

Have you asked for a paediatrics referral? It would be worth setting out your concerns and asking if he can see a specialist. Perhaps your GP doesn’t realise you’re concerned he might have an underlying problem?
Yes this. I took DC2 a couple of months back for a similar reason. We’d had a few phone appointments, one load of antibiotics, but it seemed like they’d had a cough off and on (more on) for 2-3 months and had a bout of high temps every couple of weeks. The GP said their chest didn’t actually sound too bad, he was pretty sure no asthma, but did a referral for a paediatric check anyway.

I would push for another appointment and if they still won’t do anything keep going every week. Specifically ask how long they need to be ill for before they will consider it not normal.

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