Dd has a friend who's birthday is about 12 days before dd's so her mum suggested they had a joint party somewhere in between. I've never held a kids party before and I kinda agreed now I've regretted it.
I told her we needed to book it a few weeks ago at a mutually good time as needed to be done around dh's work (he needs to be there as I have w disabled dc and I can't manage a party and looking watching him on my own) and she kept putting it off saying we will do it soon...
Now it's been Left it too late and the only time left at the local village hall isn't suitable for us at all but her friends mum has booked it anyway as it's suitable for her and still expecting us to do a joint party although it is not suitable for us. Plus it'll be 2 weeks before DD's birthday, way too soon, was going to be the weekend in between. Seems to be her way or no way and she wants a big surprise party, I don't want it to be a surprise. We simply cannot do the time she's gone and booked and put me on the spot. As well as not as she was being bossy about the food and cake etc saying it's got to be home made. I'm shit at making cakes and don't really have the time, I'm more likely to buy a cake from Asda or maybe Colin the caterpillar 😅
I told her that we will do our own party which I'm more than happy with, like doing my own things but she's shitty because I said it will be joint, now it's not. But we simply cannot do the time she has booked.
Being made to feel like I've let her down but have I? All that's been booked is the village hall, nothing else. Nothing else has been bought or done. I assumed she would have a party anyway. The time and day is much more suitable for her Dd'a party.
I've just realised I want DD's party to be extra special and all about her. She's been through a lot covid aside and she often has a tough time due to her brother being disabled and a lot of our time going to him. I really want to just have her special day now!
Aibu? It's not like it's all booked and I have let the mum down!
It's not until June btw. But the village hall gets booked up fast. Hoping there will be a slot left for Dd if not there is lots of other party venues around ☺️
I suffer from anxiety and I hate feeling like I've let someone down but I need to put us and Dd first!