Or is this odd?

[Blastoff50]

Just wondering if I’m being previous about this- happy to accept the answer if it’s a yes!!

When my sister and I were kids (she’s 4 years younger incase relevant) on Christmas morning, my parents would often give her the gifts that I had asked for. I still got nice things so I wasn’t completely excluded but I do remember being completely heartbroken when she was given things that I really wanted and then wasn’t allowed to play with them because they belonged to her. The cherry on the cake was one year I had been begging for a rabbit, my sister who had never shown any interest in animals was given a rabbit on Christmas morning. My parents would say I’m ungrateful and spoilt if I brought it up with them. What would you think?

I'd think that was nasty TBH.

Your parents sound awful.

Check out the Stately Homes thread - someone here will know which board it's on. Maybe Relationships?

It does seem peculiar. There isn't any logic behind their behaviour.

Thanks, I’m glad it’s not just me

It sounds really odd and cruel. Check out advice on narcissistic parents. Sorry you had to go through that.

That sounds really calculated and cruel, I can't imagine why anyone would do that. I can't fathom their thinking process at all

Anyone would find that upsetting OP, they sound awful.

Sounds spiteful and deliberately nasty

What is your relationship like with them now?

What is your relationship like with your sister?

That seems really odd. I can’t even imagine the thought process that would go into doing that. Like, would they discuss it, and agree to buy your sister the things you wanted?? So so odd.

That sounds awful

If that really is how things were, it's horrible behaviour on the part of your parents.

What is/was your relationship with them like in general? I'm guessing this wasn't the only thing they did that was manipulative or unpleasant.

What is the relationship like now? My in laws did this to my DH. As adult children they blamed my DH’s successes for their daughter’s failures. When we had our first child MiL gave toddler toys to FiL and a glass ornament to our baby. It was seriously weird. We also had all the usual stuff you read about here - pressuring us to let her have out baby to herself, pretending our baby was hers… That’s where Mumsnet is useful because it shows you that these behaviour patterns are not unique. Needless to say we don’t see much of them any more.

@Blastoff50

Just wondering if I’m being previous about this- happy to accept the answer if it’s a yes!!

When my sister and I were kids (she’s 4 years younger incase relevant) on Christmas morning, my parents would often give her the gifts that I had asked for. I still got nice things so I wasn’t completely excluded but I do remember being completely heartbroken when she was given things that I really wanted and then wasn’t allowed to play with them because they belonged to her. The cherry on the cake was one year I had been begging for a rabbit, my sister who had never shown any interest in animals was given a rabbit on Christmas morning. My parents would say I’m ungrateful and spoilt if I brought it up with them. What would you think?

Wow. Your parents suck.

Whether it was intentional or not, they suck.
Because if it wasn't intentional, then they are idiots.
And if it was intentional, then yeah, they especially
suck -- big-time.

btw just wondering
what is your sister doing now?

Did your sister ever say anything? What about things she wanted herself did you get those?
Very strange
@Genevieva - I can understand why you're low contact!

That's really bizarre. I could totally understand you not getting a pet, OP, but only if your parents didn't think it was a good idea to get a pet at all. For them to then give your sister the same pet you'd asked for is just awful.