To move DS away from his dad?

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DS is three and stays at his dad's house on a Thursday and Friday night (he attends nursery until 5pm both days). We currently live a five minute drive away from his dad.

I'm currently repeating the first year of my degree so this is a way off, but when I qualify I would like to move away from our hometown. It's okay here but it's dull with few career prospects.

A potential new place for us would be 2 hours + away.

Do people do this? Can this work? Or am I stuck within a certain radius of here for the next 15 years?

Very prepared to be told I am BU.

Whqt is your relationship like with your ex? What’s his relationship like with DS? What would your plan be to ensure he’s able to maintain the same level of contact with his dad as he doesn’t currently without significant additional cost or travel time for your ex? Unless your ex agreed to a change in contact patterns or to share the travel, ultimately that could mean a lot more travelling for you (courts generally view the parent who moved as the one who should travel for contact.)

I would chat to his dad about it nearer the time, and arrange regular access.

You can’t limit your opportunities just because of where your ex lives, but equally it’s not fair on your ex not to see his son regularly.

You should also be aware that you would be the one paying for your son to visit his dad, as it was your choice to move away.